Advice needed

I have an almost 2 & 3 year old & recently found out I’m about 7 weeks pregnant . Instantly got overwhelmed bc I am the default parent. My bd has also been under stress with the news, he’s working more hrs. He gives me money every now n then that I use for necessities or else I save it.

He got drunk the other day & was taking out his frustration on me, Told me to get rid of the baby & to gather all the money up he’s given to me & to consider myself cut off. He later in the day apologized when he sobered up. Every time he get mad he asks for his money back & leaves me with 0. Im at war with myself rn whether to keep this baby or not💔 due to bad circumstances w bd. Will I be able to handle 3 fr, Or should I stand tf up, leave him , keep the baby & raise my kids on my own like I have been . I just know it will be so so hard

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Hi, firstly I hope you are okay. You are a brave woman to stick around when you are being verbally abused when he is drunk.
If you leave him it might be hard but you will figure it out, I’m sure. If you are asking the question I think deep down you know the answer and what the right thing to do is. Know your worth, stay strong 🤍

I’m currently in the position where I kept the baby and stayed with the dad we had this exact environment before and I’m now currently with a 3 month old trying to find ways to leave without him being involved as he is verbally abusive controlling and can’t care for the child properly, girl keep that baby and leave you can clearly do it on your own I wish I left…

Does he know u are saving the money he gives u?
U can always keep that information away and let him feel u use them for things around the house and kids.
You mustn't give him anything back when he asks.
Gather enough that can keep you on your feet for a while (even if it means getting a work from home or part time job if you aren't currently working) and leave once it's looking like it's just getting worse.

Even with 2 or 3 kids, it will be tough leaving with nothing planned.
And I hope he's not deliberately trying to financially cripple you so you are stuck in the circle and be under that toxic control.

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