Venting! False promises on support post partum
I just had my second baby in April. I had severe PPA and PPD with my first. In order to not go down that hill again, I talked with my mother who promised to support me by watching my toddler the first three months which are critical for mental health so my husband could take the baby and I could sleep during the day and he could cook for me so I eat. Based on this promise of support, my family moved cross country back to my hometown. Ever since I got here my mom has been MIA. She has multiple jobs 7 am - 7 pm (doesn’t need the money, even then I offered to pay her more than her job which she refused because this is her passion). She keeps saying she wishes she could help me but then when it’s time to help she won’t take any time off from her jobs?! Her jobs btw are working at a day care. She would rather take care of strangers children than her own grandchild. It’s driving me crazy and I’m starting to get very angry when she texts she wishes to help because obviously it’s false promises and fake love. I’m so disappointed and upset. She only “helps” on her time which is a few hours on weekends even then she has other children in the house she’s also watching. I’m so sad and my mental health is declining from sleep deprivation and constant toddler tantrums. My husband can’t take the baby so Im doing baby duty and cooking which is so draining. Whenever I say that to her, she says she raised me and my brother (7 years younger) alone so I should do the same. I don’t understand what her motivation is, does she hate me? Is her job that important?
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