Where did we go wrong

Is it all kids? Just my kids and my bonus kids? Where did we go wrong. In what world is it acceptable that instead of working for something these kids put their hands out and if you don’t just give it then you’re a terrible parent. Instead of working for what they want they expect mom and dad to cover it. I KNOW we didn’t raise our children like this, that’s why I’m baffled. My husband works 12-14 hour days 6-7 days a week. I bust my ass and work for everything I want or need. We have been doing that since teens. Cars? We got our own. Car insurance? Paid our own. College? You better get a scholarship or a job. Phone bill? We paid our own. Ofc we don’t mind helping our children, but because we ( the kids) just keep adding more and more and more things we want and need we are at the point now where it’s like.. you need to get a job and atleast contribute.. and now we are terrible horrible unreliable parents.

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