How are you affording childcare?

We have an 8 month old and a 2 year old. We make too much for assistance but to little to afford it!
Childcare is crazy!!!!

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dad taking over?

anyone else feel like their babys dad is taking over?
im 4 weeks postpartum, and while im SO grateful that he’s a hands on dad (the bare minimum) i cant help but feel like im literally only here to breastfeed. he lets me sleep more than him but i feel like hes always there, always watching, always taking her from me, always giving me passive aggressive and condescending ‘advice’ ???
ive been feeling like i cant connect with baby and that alongside the stress of breastfeeding is making me so overwhelmed and i dont know what to do.
i guess i just want to know if im the only one? :/

Should I let him stay late at a wedding?

My husband's close friend is getting married soon. My parents are going to watch our 8 month old twins for the daytime but aren't comfortable looking after them for the evening because they haven't done it before. We were going to leave before the evening meal/events begin to get back home, but my husband's friend is now saying he wants my husband to stay. My parents will stick around to help me with the kids but don't know their routine or anything, should I say he can stay later and deal with them myself?

Dilemmaaaa

so I have twin 8month old babies and it’s my first cousin’s wedding on sunday, from 10am until very late… partner’s parents are going to babysit, and me and partner were going to stay until about 6pm… but then the dinner part doesn’t even start until 7pm…! we can’t ask partner’s parents to stay much later as they’re already coming round early in the morning. my cousin is begging at least for me to stay for the dinner but I feel bad to let partner go home alone and put the twins to bed (it’s a lotttttt)… but then a) my cousin said she only gets married once… b) his parents will still be there to help… c) it’s one night and if it was other way round I would do it for him ……… but a) what if they don’t go to sleep… b) his parents judge if i am out late… c) what if he resents me after (he is like that) …
Any advice or suggestions or persuasion tips pleeeeeease comment!!!

Childcare Gov account- help

Hi there, can I get a bit of advice with my childcare gov account. For background I have a 6 year old and a 6 month old who is yet to start nursery. When I log on and click the ‘free childcare for parents’ menu both kids are listed with their own codes. We have yet to give my LOs code to the nursery.
However when I click the ‘your tax-free childcare account’ only my eldest is listed. Is this normal at this stage or have I missed a step? Thanks!

Would you use this car seat protector under your car seat?

Okay my husband and I keep butting heads over my car. He wants it much cleaner than I have the time or energy to keep up with -> he won’t clean it though.

I’m tired of butting head over this and I’m considering using this thing.

I’ve seen ones that are split but I don’t really see how that system would help me keep the seat clean unlike this single one.

I just spent two hours scrubbing my seats yesterday. I deep clean once a month and take it to the car wash every Monday on top of that I pick up trash daily and put any free items in the bins system I’m using. (One under each of my kids for their toys and one in the trunk for random things so they are flying around .

I’ve come a long way with car maintenance but all he ever sees is what I’m doing wrong and I’m over it.

Do you do any nursery pick ups in PJs?

I sometimes do when I’m in too much pain to change. Wondering if people ever judge me for it.