how to deal with childless bsf giving unsolicited advice

What is a bsf

I tend to just say things along the lines of ‘it doesn’t work like that’ or that it’s much easier said than done. Tends to make them realise they actually have no experience with caring for a child of their own.
I only had one friend who had kids before me and we weren’t that close but I was kinda the same although I wouldn’t say that stuff to her face, it would be a conversation with other friends like ‘I don’t get why she always says no to plans, why can’t her husband watch the kids?’. The husband was just a deadbeat in that instance to be fair, but I understood everything straight away once I had my own child

why don’t you ask ur friends to come round to urs then for an evening maybe?

means u get ur time but ur also not away from baby if they need you and dad is on hand too

could be a good place to start on that front

but also i agree with lauryne about saying things like easier said than done or even explaining fully why some things just don’t work and that all babies are different x

My god could have wrote this myself. I had this time and time again when my baby was younger. She was inviting me on nights out 1 week after my emergency c section saying things like “it’ll do you good to get out and about”… when we was going through the 4 month sleep regression and I hadn’t had so much as 1 hour a night for weeks on end, I told her how much I was struggling, and she invited me to a rave???? After that I just distanced myself, I knew she couldn’t relate to my experience but she wasn’t even listening, she wasn’t even trying to understand, I had other friends child free that tried so hard to understand, even read books about motherhood to support me, and the stark difference to her and the way she went about things really hurt me. We’re still in touch now, but we never see each other, end of an era sadly but I just couldn’t handle being made to feel like I was doing motherhood wrong by someone who’d never even held a baby.

I don’t think there are any bad intentions. Everyone needs space to recharge, even of you think you don’t or are anxious about it. Just because someone doesn’t have their own children does not mean they can’t give good ideas or give an outside the baby bubble.