Would you take your toddler to a family member’s funeral?

It is my grandads funeral coming up, i wasn’t planning on bringing my 22 month old but my nan said she would like him there. He would be sat in a pushchair the whole time and i’d keep him occupied with some quiet toys like a doodle pad thing.

I think he will be a good distraction for people and it will be lovely seeing his smiley face. But also, is he too young? Will he know whats happening? Will it scare him? It isn’t an open casket. He will just see the coffin with flowers on top, and obviously people being very sad.

I know there will be lots of mixed views, but wondering what peoples thoughts were?

My sister is taking her 12 week old and my other sister is taking her 7 month old.. but obviously they won’t know anything at all.

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I didn't know people didn't bring babies to funerals. I don't see why not. In my culture it's only a problem if pregnant women see the body

My now 3 yr old has been to 6 funerals the earliest at being a month old and he’s always done well at them and he does tend to lift some peoples spirits by just being there . During calling hours I remember my grandma coming over and sitting next to me in the side room to talk to me and to play with my then 2 yr old and he was so happy I brought him bc my grandma loved her grandkids . I tell my toddler we are going to a quiet place that we gotta whisper in there and I have only attended open casket funerals and I take him up to wave or say bye and I tell him they r gonna be sleeping for a long time now like the dinosaurs as he’s obsessed with them so he kind of understands what it means . Do whatever you think is best for your family .

Depends on a child, you know him better and know how he’d would react or if it would affect him in some way. Babies are a bit different as they won’t have any understanding yet.
I wouldn’t bring mine because I know my eldest is a bit sensitive, I brought him to the hospital when his great grandmother was ill when he was 2 and he was a bit traumatised by it and even now he’s still a bit scared of older people, he’s 3.5 now.
Maybe bring him to the wake and not the church/crematorium?

Took my daughter to my grandads when she was around 2. My grandma wanted her there as a happy distraction. Only observation she made during the service was shouting ‘squeaky music’ during the curtains closing bit, which gave everyone a much needed smile.

I’m so sorry for your loss! At that age, they probably won’t understand what’s happening, but they might see people crying and ask you why so that’s up to you to decide what you wanna tell your baby.

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nothing changes for men, but everything has to change for the woman. He is selfish.

I have a 1-month-old and a 2.5-year-old. I’m not breastfeeding, but I’m constantly doing everything for the baby. He helps with bedtime for the toddler and bath time. I cook and clean. I have to ask for help. For example, I was poorly with mastitis and had to ask him to come up to bed early to be ready for the first night feed instead of me waking up. (I fell asleep at 7:30 with the baby.) I feel like I shouldn’t have even needed to ask.

My toddler wakes up anywhere from 5am, and the baby also stirs from wind at 4am and goes back to sleep whenever he feels like it. So I need to deal with my toddler and a crying baby at the same time. My toddler won’t go back to sleep if he hears his brother crying, and my partner just left for the gym.

I said to him, “If you’re awake, you should maybe take the baby so I can get some more sleep, and this is where you can be selfish.”

He said his body was feeling tight. Then I said, “Whatever, just go anyway.” He then came back up saying, “I cba with this, just give me the baby!” — making me feel like I should feel bad because I want sleep before he goes to work.

Am I in the wrong for thinking the gym can just do one or if he can’t be bothered to go at night when our toddler is fully asleep and doesn’t wake up, then that’s his problem. That he should just actually think about the whole family needs right now. Like if my toddler wakes before 6 he’s going to be exhausted because I won’t be able to get him back to sleep with a crying baby therefore everyone is going to be exhausted and tapped out by 3pm

Edit - suggested going in evening and all I got is that’s definitely not happening so I need to just like it 🤷‍♀️

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Her dad (my ex partner) now wants me to take the style out today so he can take her to a braider over the weekend before they go on holiday next week. The thing is her hair will still looks perfectly neat, and today is a work night for me. Taking the plaits out alone will take around an hour and then I’d still need to sort her hair for school tomorrow.

I think what’s frustrating me is that during his weeks he doesn’t really maintain her hair or take her to get it done unless there’s a holiday or occasion involved, so this feels like extra work being added onto me unnecessarily when I literally just did her hair.

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We have done the no nappy on at all and that just ended up with him peeing 7 times on the floor and we were trying to catch him to go on the potty too, but nothing. At one point he even went to splash in it and even had poop down his leg.

Zero interest in going on the potty, if he’s distracted and sat on it and does eventually pee in it, he doesn’t react to any praise and has even cried because he did pee.

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My husband had to look after the toddler for a day yesterday whilst I worked and he told me he struggled. I felt angry instead of understanding. There are days when I work from home, my 3 year old is home and I still need to look after her and work and make her meals and the rest of it. Are my feelings valid? Or am I being harsh that he struggled. He doesn't usually look after her it's usually me doing it all. Now I'm pregnant I've asked for more help and will need more help going forward when the baby comes.

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