Nursery

My son was born in December 2025 so currently 5 months old and I was wondering when should I start applying for nurseries? I’m in Birmingham UK

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Partner

nothing changes for men, but everything has to change for the woman. He is selfish.

I have a 1-month-old and a 2.5-year-old. I’m not breastfeeding, but I’m constantly doing everything for the baby. He helps with bedtime for the toddler and bath time. I cook and clean. I have to ask for help. For example, I was poorly with mastitis and had to ask him to come up to bed early to be ready for the first night feed instead of me waking up. (I fell asleep at 7:30 with the baby.) I feel like I shouldn’t have even needed to ask.

My toddler wakes up anywhere from 5am, and the baby also stirs from wind at 4am and goes back to sleep whenever he feels like it. So I need to deal with my toddler and a crying baby at the same time. My toddler won’t go back to sleep if he hears his brother crying, and my partner just left for the gym.

I said to him, “If you’re awake, you should maybe take the baby so I can get some more sleep, and this is where you can be selfish.”

He said his body was feeling tight. Then I said, “Whatever, just go anyway.” He then came back up saying, “I cba with this, just give me the baby!” — making me feel like I should feel bad because I want sleep before he goes to work.

Am I in the wrong for thinking the gym can just do one or if he can’t be bothered to go at night when our toddler is fully asleep and doesn’t wake up, then that’s his problem. That he should just actually think about the whole family needs right now. Like if my toddler wakes before 6 he’s going to be exhausted because I won’t be able to get him back to sleep with a crying baby therefore everyone is going to be exhausted and tapped out by 3pm

Edit - suggested going in evening and all I got is that’s definitely not happening so I need to just like it 🤷‍♀️

Would I be unreasonable for saying no to this?

My 10 year old daughter has 4a/b hair and I did her hair in single plaits 4 days ago after finally having the energy to do it again following a really stressful few weeks with her health and a hospital stay. Normally I redo her hair every 2 weeks, take down, wash, detangle, and style everything myself.

Her dad (my ex partner) now wants me to take the style out today so he can take her to a braider over the weekend before they go on holiday next week. The thing is her hair will still looks perfectly neat, and today is a work night for me. Taking the plaits out alone will take around an hour and then I’d still need to sort her hair for school tomorrow.

I think what’s frustrating me is that during his weeks he doesn’t really maintain her hair or take her to get it done unless there’s a holiday or occasion involved, so this feels like extra work being added onto me unnecessarily when I literally just did her hair.

Would you take it out or leave it as it is?

What do you eat?

For those of you who give baby anything you eat. What exactly are you eating? What age did you give your baby what you ate? And what sort of spices do you use? I’d love to give baby what we eat but I’m struggling with it as we eat a lot of salads, Indian and food with lots of different spices.

Child protection services

Has anyone ever had their daycare center ring child protection services on them for your children (3yr & 1yr) having bruises? Did the daycare consult with you about where the brusing come from or straight up right child protection services.
Would you change daycare centers or keep at the same place?

I want to change as it has hurt me they couldn't ask me to start with and just straight up rang cps.

My nan pressuring me to potty train my son

He’ll be 3 in a couple months and she says as he’ll be starting nursery soon that he needs to be potty trained before then and started trying to give ideas.

But we have tried and even got 3 potties in our house (one that goes on the toilet and 2 floor ones), he has never had any interest in them and we have been trying to sit him in them (sometimes not the most consistent I will admit) and he screams.

We have done the no nappy on at all and that just ended up with him peeing 7 times on the floor and we were trying to catch him to go on the potty too, but nothing. At one point he even went to splash in it and even had poop down his leg.

Zero interest in going on the potty, if he’s distracted and sat on it and does eventually pee in it, he doesn’t react to any praise and has even cried because he did pee.

I’ve even tried to say he can get a sticker if he goes toilet on the potty and that didn’t work.

Sex with my husband

Mama's with 2 kids, a 3 yo and a 4 month old. We still trying to get used to our 4 month old with a sleeping schedule.. and she also co sleeps with me. Why is it so hard to get sex and have time with my husband?? Is it always this hard getting used to 2 kids?