Is it ok if I want to hang with the mom but not her kid......

From my child's preschool there was a girl we had a playdate with and I click well with her mom but our kids don't have a good time. Both playdates, her child wouldn't say hi to my daughter, then ran off, she came back then she wanted to play. Then during play while we're watching them she said my child hit her with a tree branch. My child was literally sitting down on the ground on the other side nowhere near her . At the end my daughter gave her a hug and this child stood there with her arms to her side and looking off in the distance. My child looked so hurt, I absolutely will not do that again. But I like her Mom, can I ask her for lunch or just let them go. ?

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How old are the children? Some kids take longer to feel more confident around others and need time to settle in. It may be daunting to them.

I understand what you are saying tho. My daughter is very outgoing and when someone ignores her, it breaks my heart.

But if a mum asked me for lunch without the kids after a couple of meets, I would also be hurt as to how they don’t agree/like my children.

I think it’s quite a touchy subject.

How old? Is it possible you have unrealistic social expectations of a toddler? I think this actually could be a learning opportunity for you to teach your daughter that not everyone communicates the same way or likes physical contact with someone they don't know that well. They need a chance to learn how to interact and play. My daughter has been the child you're talking about here- she takes time to bond with people and I 100% support that. She has friendships now that we've gently encouraged, and any mum taking issue with the fact she wasn't immediately playing the same way as their child or giving hugs would piss me off to be brutally honest.

i think you should give it some more time. my son is super friendly and sociable and this one little girl who was shy screamed “no stop” and put her arms up like 🙅‍♀️when he walked up to her but after a while she started wanting to play with him and they played together really well.

Idk, I don't personally see that this child has done anything really wrong. She's just different to yours. If you're not going to be accepting of that fair enough but I'd be careful how you broach it with the mum because if it was me I wouldn't be making special plans to see someone without my daughter for the reasons you have given. I'd just say ok we won't meet 🤷🏼‍♀️

They're in school together, sure but that doesnt mean they're friends. The girl could have been surprised to be hanging out with your kid outside of school...esp since it has only happened 2x since they started school in august. Twice in 9mths is not a lot.

The lying could have been addressed. You could have went over to your kid and asked, and when she said no then I would have went to the other kid and her mom and told the girl X said she didnt and waited to see how the mom was addressing it and if she didnt then iii would have said "My daughter said she didn't hit you with a branch and it isn't kind to make up stories like that."

As far as the hug...my kid knows to ask if she can give a hug or a high 5 because one of her brothers hates physical affection. So she checks in. Maybe thats something you can work on with your kid. Not everyone wants to give hugs and thats okay.

I'd personally give it a few gos, for both kids.

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nothing changes for men, but everything has to change for the woman. He is selfish.

I have a 1-month-old and a 2.5-year-old. I’m not breastfeeding, but I’m constantly doing everything for the baby. He helps with bedtime for the toddler and bath time. I cook and clean. I have to ask for help. For example, I was poorly with mastitis and had to ask him to come up to bed early to be ready for the first night feed instead of me waking up. (I fell asleep at 7:30 with the baby.) I feel like I shouldn’t have even needed to ask.

My toddler wakes up anywhere from 5am, and the baby also stirs from wind at 4am and goes back to sleep whenever he feels like it. So I need to deal with my toddler and a crying baby at the same time. My toddler won’t go back to sleep if he hears his brother crying, and my partner just left for the gym.

I said to him, “If you’re awake, you should maybe take the baby so I can get some more sleep, and this is where you can be selfish.”

He said his body was feeling tight. Then I said, “Whatever, just go anyway.” He then came back up saying, “I cba with this, just give me the baby!” — making me feel like I should feel bad because I want sleep before he goes to work.

Am I in the wrong for thinking the gym can just do one or if he can’t be bothered to go at night when our toddler is fully asleep and doesn’t wake up, then that’s his problem. That he should just actually think about the whole family needs right now. Like if my toddler wakes before 6 he’s going to be exhausted because I won’t be able to get him back to sleep with a crying baby therefore everyone is going to be exhausted and tapped out by 3pm

Edit - suggested going in evening and all I got is that’s definitely not happening so I need to just like it 🤷‍♀️

Would I be unreasonable for saying no to this?

My 10 year old daughter has 4a/b hair and I did her hair in single plaits 4 days ago after finally having the energy to do it again following a really stressful few weeks with her health and a hospital stay. Normally I redo her hair every 2 weeks, take down, wash, detangle, and style everything myself.

Her dad (my ex partner) now wants me to take the style out today so he can take her to a braider over the weekend before they go on holiday next week. The thing is her hair will still looks perfectly neat, and today is a work night for me. Taking the plaits out alone will take around an hour and then I’d still need to sort her hair for school tomorrow.

I think what’s frustrating me is that during his weeks he doesn’t really maintain her hair or take her to get it done unless there’s a holiday or occasion involved, so this feels like extra work being added onto me unnecessarily when I literally just did her hair.

Would you take it out or leave it as it is?

Child protection services

Has anyone ever had their daycare center ring child protection services on them for your children (3yr & 1yr) having bruises? Did the daycare consult with you about where the brusing come from or straight up right child protection services.
Would you change daycare centers or keep at the same place?

I want to change as it has hurt me they couldn't ask me to start with and just straight up rang cps.

What do you eat?

For those of you who give baby anything you eat. What exactly are you eating? What age did you give your baby what you ate? And what sort of spices do you use? I’d love to give baby what we eat but I’m struggling with it as we eat a lot of salads, Indian and food with lots of different spices.

My nan pressuring me to potty train my son

He’ll be 3 in a couple months and she says as he’ll be starting nursery soon that he needs to be potty trained before then and started trying to give ideas.

But we have tried and even got 3 potties in our house (one that goes on the toilet and 2 floor ones), he has never had any interest in them and we have been trying to sit him in them (sometimes not the most consistent I will admit) and he screams.

We have done the no nappy on at all and that just ended up with him peeing 7 times on the floor and we were trying to catch him to go on the potty too, but nothing. At one point he even went to splash in it and even had poop down his leg.

Zero interest in going on the potty, if he’s distracted and sat on it and does eventually pee in it, he doesn’t react to any praise and has even cried because he did pee.

I’ve even tried to say he can get a sticker if he goes toilet on the potty and that didn’t work.

Sex with my husband

Mama's with 2 kids, a 3 yo and a 4 month old. We still trying to get used to our 4 month old with a sleeping schedule.. and she also co sleeps with me. Why is it so hard to get sex and have time with my husband?? Is it always this hard getting used to 2 kids?