Am I wrong for this?

You can't make someone want to chnage their behavior. He has to want it.

He sounds like he needs therapy if he can't cope with his emotions without unhealthy food

He’s got no energy BECAUSE he isn’t doing enough or eating right, he’s in a vicious cycle

I understand what you’re saying. Maybe have another much deeper conversation with him or come up with a schedule together or if you’re making the meals make healthy ones. But if he doesn’t want to change, let him be. Maybe once you get back to what you wanna look like that would be motivation for him. But don’t keep wasting your breath to help him. He’ll probably come around eventually but if not, at least you did what you needed for you.

Could he have PPD?

Ive been through this. My husband was letting him self go, also he had stopped smoking and was compensating with food. I was cooking healthy stuff but he was ordering a lot junk food… I was hitting the gym or doing exercises at home and I had. 2 pregnancy back to back, my 2nd was waking a lot during the nights (I’m breastfeeding so only me on nights shift) so what was his excuses for not doing it lol ?!
I’ve kept pushing him and trying to make him eat as much healthy as I could
And finally one day he started going back to the gym and stopped ordering junk food on the side !
I think he was seeing myself so motivated at some point he felt shame of letting him self go. My son was copying me with squats and burpees alll day and I think it hit him at some point
Don’t discourage yourself ! Big luck to you I hope it will hit him at some point as well… the thing is that you can’t force him… he needs to decide…
Also what is hard when you have kids is

Also what motivated my husband is that our first copy us and see everything, and he’s only just 2. So bre a good example ourselves is very important if we want him to pick good and healthy habits ! Maybe try to make him understand this in your convo

Either do it together or you work on your health journey alone and he’ll realise the changes in you and hopefully that’ll open his eyes and force him to make some changes. For most couples they do the health journey together, they are accountable for each other. But if he’s not willing, then just focus on yourself and lead by example. 6yrs ago we were both at our biggest, I was PP for my 3rd baby. I found places to go every weekend so we can get out and walk, places like the zoo need like 5hrs to finish the whole thing and see everything, so we went zoo, ikea, museums, markets and festivals often. I cooked more healthy for both of us, and we both lost a lot of weight. But you can only to do it together if he’s willing to.

As someone who goes to the gym everyday, I wouldn’t accept this type of behaviour from my partner. I’d expect him to work at becoming a healthier weight / living a healthier lifestyle for the sake of our children.

He’s tired because his lifestyle is unhealthy. It’s a cycle. He would have more energy long term if he spent his short term cleaning himself up.

He also needs to set a better example for your child, like you are. So that she doesn’t grow up learning these unhealthy habits.

I’d just give him an ultimatum..