Is this a reasonable take or do you feel judged?

My opinion is that you can do whatever you want as a parent, given your circumstances and your goals. But for me, giving my baby / toddler screentime doesn’t match my personal goals as a parent. I don’t even have my phone on me when I’m with her - it’s never in my hand or my pocket. It’s either sitting on a shelf somewhere out of sight or it’s in my backpack. It definitely affects the way she interacts with me and others, and her ability to focus and not get side tracked.

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I think it’s reasonable but I still always keep my phone easily accessible. If something happens, trying to remember where I put it could be the end of one or both of us

Seems like a reasonable take. Everyone’s lives and needs are different. If you don’t do screentime, that’s fine!

We do some screen time. Because my goal is not lose my mind and to enjoy motherhood. And that means I need a break sometimes after being with my kids 24/7. So for me, screentime 100% matches my goals.

I don't feel judged by no/limited screen time parents as long as they don't make assumptions about how screen time affects my own kids. Everyone is different, I think your choices are reasonable

Reasonable. Everyone’s different, lives are different, children are different. I’ve used screen time in moderation. My kids are older than this and I’m happy with my decision thus far as it hasn’t had a negative effect on them, their behavior, academically or socially.

Everyone is entitled to raise their kids how they see fit, especially if the child is happy healthy & loved. I too have a limit on tv time. Our oldest is 6 & didn't get TV until 2 & that was only Winnie the pooh original, or little bear. 3 it was big comfy couch & bluey. 4 it was pokemon & still big comfy couch & sometimes little bear lol. 5 it was super heros, pokemon, ninja turtles, we also started gaming as a family on Sunday only. She gets 15-30 min of living room tv time. I took Early Ed & had to study the effects of a tablet with young children. 😐 we play sonic, Mario, zelda together for 1 to 2 hours broken up on Sunday (sometimes, sometimes she forgets) & she plays. All day long. No issue. It's important to me to teach her life is way more important than a phone. Period. In my own philosophy of raising my kids. Doing so well in school all above average. I'm so proud.

I've focused on love, play, learning, & genuine time spent. It sucks having to answer sometimes, but thank God she loves to tell me anything. She has 3 playdates this weekend & 1 is with 2 neighbors her age. I got the moms to agree to just get together 9am-2pm or so. I think the friends we've made, the community we've built, it's really cool to see them all come over & no one uses their phones because we are all having a good time. Parents are playing games/ talking/ hanging out & kids are being kids. I'll put the tv on disney & they can pick a movie late like 8pm on. It's honestly so nice to also make ourselves screen free. We don't touch our phones until the kids are in bed asleep. We have to lead by example. My cousins kids are 9 & 10 even, my nephews are 10 & 8 etc. They don't have phones. They have or had limited tv time bc we all raised them that life is too important.

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Am I over reacting?!

I’ve been back to work, and DD in nursery for 3 weeks. She does 2 days. My husband drops her off and my mam usually collects her around 3pm.

Firstly, I have nappies and wipes in her bag so my mam has some when she picks her up. Nursery has the option to use their own nappies and wipes to which I said yes. They keep using the ones in the bag and asking us to send in more. I’ve told them twice now that they should be using nursery ones.

Today, when my mam collected her, she said her face was covered in snot and my mam had to ask for the wipes (which had been taken out of her bag) so she could wipe her face. When I’ve picked her up from my mams, she’s got a dummy which isn’t hers and her dirty clothes aren’t in her bag. Her dummy clip is always missing too.

Am I over reacting to call them tomorrow and tell them again to stop using the nappies/wipes in her bag and that she’s often not coming home with everything she should be.

I just don’t want to be THAT parent 🤦🏻‍♀️

Is it just us?! Is it just me !?!

My partner is great in many ways but one thing that causes issues with us is the spend on the children. He says they don't need things and because he doesn't think they need them I foot the bill. This is the same for clothes , shoes, birthdays etc. He is naturally more frugal than me and in some ways I get it.

But I'm just annoyed that it's either the kids go without or I pay for it. They are by no means spoilt. We have had very different upbringings.

Does anyone else have a similar issue. Not sure how to navigate it, we need to as it's a recurring argument.

Am I wrong for this?

My husband and I gained a lot of weight in a short amount of time since having daughter. I was pregnant so I feel like the weight I gained is different but anyways I’ve been really trying to watch what I eat and push myself to get up and move as much as possible. My daughter is very energetic so I’m pretty much chasing after her all day, I go on walks sometimes twice a day to the park and around the block before i put her to bed. I also clean our apartment and I do all this with littke to no sleep. My daughter wakes up multiple times a night and I have to help go back to sleep. I’m exhausted and so sleep deprived all the time making it really hard to get up in the morning so I have him do it. I say all this because I’m trying to encourage my husband to be more active, walk with us and eat better cause I’m genuinely worried about his health and his excuse is always “I’m tired” “I got up early with her and did errands I want to rest” I tell him that I’m exhausted too but I’m pushing myself cause I’m tired of being lazy and unhealthy and he just complains how he needs rest. He also is constantly overbearing and buying unhealthy stuff no matter how much I try to get him to stop. He’s just so stubborn and I hate seeing him like this. But on the other hand maybe I am asking too much or being rude about it?? Idk.

Depressed

Just found out my boyfriend won’t get out of jail for our daughter’s birth ( my first child / pregnancy ) I feel so upset and bothered about it. I’m his second baby mama and he got to experience his first child with her ( btw I don’t have any problems with her also they only co parent and don’t even talk) I just can’t help but to feel sad about the fact I’ve been doing this alone . I’m due August 13th and he’s getting out September 05 . Having to deal with not having a baby shower planned yet ( planning it now with my sisters and bestfriend ) also not having money for the phone, being unprepared with everything too as well as having to pay my obygn. It’s literally so hard. I’m so overwhelmed , I love him but I will always remember he missed out .

Uses me to "relax"

My husband uses my body as relaxation or a "sleep aid" and it's getting more and more annoying. If he cant get to sleep, he will want to screw me. After we're done he falls fast asleep. Once I didnt go into the room because I knew what he wanted and he started huffing and puffing. Im just over it. He wants sex too often for my liking anyways. I just feel used, like an appliance that cooks, cleans and that he sticks his penis in every other day(it would be everyday if he had his way). Im just venting...idk how to even handle this situation because I let it go on for so long smh.

I'm lost

my boyfriend for the past 3 years has watched porn. I've told him time and time again that I consider it cheating, it feels the same if someone sent him nudes instead he's just searching it. recently he swore on our son he wasn't doing that again, but today I checked his history without him knowing and it goes back to Feburary of him doing this. I'm lost at this point. I don't know what else to do. I'm also a stay at home mom and don't have resources to leave. but I'm done being lied to. and I want to mention, if he wants something I give it to him. even if I'm tired or sick or whatever.