Uses me to "relax"

My husband uses my body as relaxation or a "sleep aid" and it's getting more and more annoying. If he cant get to sleep, he will want to screw me. After we're done he falls fast asleep. Once I didnt go into the room because I knew what he wanted and he started huffing and puffing. Im just over it. He wants sex too often for my liking anyways. I just feel used, like an appliance that cooks, cleans and that he sticks his penis in every other day(it would be everyday if he had his way). Im just venting...idk how to even handle this situation because I let it go on for so long smh.

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WHAT IS GOING ON WITH THESE POSTS LATELY. I know it’s the men, I’m not blaming you. It’s just so scary how often these are being posted now, by like minutes.

Edit: but I am glad ladies are finding a safe space to talk to out 🫶🏻💕

YOU ARE NOT A WALKING SEX DOLL FOR HIS USE BECAUSE YOU SIGNED A PIECE OF PAPER.
And huffing and puffing and pitching a fit when you’re not down to be dicked is manipulation.

Gosh I understand it's annoying. In our case, before we had children my husband had a bad problem with waking up ob time for work and sometimes when I wanted him to be up with me in the morning instead of sleeping half day I knew one thing that would always wake him up no matter what and that is sex. But he, unlike you, loved it so I used that as a tool to get him to do things which I knew back then already was toxic and now I see it too. Since we have children he started waking up on time for everything and also in the morning on weekends to be with us so that's not in question anymore but yeah.
He is huffing and puffing? Let him huff and puff and not become your problem. He should learn to understand what sets you in the mood and put in the effort to do it. And you are allowed to explain that to him

The huffing and puffing makes him sound like a child. He should use his hand and put hisself to sleep.

Does he actually know that you don't want it? If he does, this is quite literally rape. Him touching you when you don't want it is rape. Him huffing and puffing so he gets his way is also rape. This is very serious and it's important for you to know that you don't just need to vent and tolerate it. You need to address it.

If you want to stay with this man, you need drastic change in how the two of you approach boundaries... you setting them, communicating them, and him respecting them. Introducing boundaries is your absolute right at any time, so don't feel you can't start now. If he can't respect your boundaries, you need to remove yourself from him before abuse begins in other forms.

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