Would you be mad?

Not sure if I’m overreacting but I can’t help but be mad. Here’s the backstory my partner has a semi no-contact relationship with his mum and by that I mean he doesn’t respond or even talk to her and the majority of their interactions go through me (which I never asked for or agreed too). We have a 5 month old son who she’s only ever met 3 times and barely asks about him but expects us to keep her updated. Like most new parents we’re living month to month and finances are quite tight at the moment with me being out of work and on MAT leave. Well my MIL has asked me today if I can ask my partner, her son if he can send her money/contribute towards a vet bill for one of her cats. The reason I’m mad is because she only ever reaches out when it’s to ask for money and today she asked to call to FaceTime with my son but didnt hesitate once I’d accepted to put me in the awkward position of asking for money not to actually interact with her grandson. She came across quite passive aggressive about it stating that he should help her because “it’s technically his cat” - this was a cat she adopted when he was A CHILD. This vet bill is supposedly over £700 so I don’t know where she thinks we’re going to pull money from? I appreciate we’re all struggling but I really don’t think this is our problem…. Not only this but she messaged him about this and he ghosted her (which she also complained to me about) but I feel like if he didnt respond to your message at the time clearly that’s your answer… so why am I now being put in the awkward position to ask him again? When it has nothing to do with me.. and my priority is my son?. Idk would you be mad? The other thing is I know that the more she keeps begging and pestering him the more he’s willing to give her what she wants just to shut her up because he just wants an easy life and never stands up to her which also makes me mad because if we had the means to help her I’d be happy to but I know we don’t and this means it’ll be affecting how we care for our son which just has me riled up.

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Starting to come to the conclusion my daughter will be a only child, just like me 😭💔

Me and my partner have been together for almost 14 years. We waited so long to have kids, and then we went through infertility struggles for a while before finally having our daughter. I always dreamed of having a big family, at least 3 kids, and I truly thought we would build that life together.

But now, things feel so different. We barely get along anymore, and he has become such a miserable person. It feels like he’s constantly unhappy and always bringing up negative things , many of them situations that he created himself, but now he wants to play the victim in.

Before I had my daughter, I used to stay quiet and be more compliant just to keep the peace. But now that I’m older, and especially now that I’m a mother, I’m exhausted from pretending his behavior doesn’t affect me. It does affect me deeply, and I can’t keep carrying everything like this anymore.

What makes me even sadder is that I still want more children, but now I’m scared. Even if I were to go through IVF with a donor, part of me feels like he would make our lives miserable anyway. It hurts so much because the dream I had for my future and my family feels like it’s slipping away, and I feel overwhelmed and heartbroken.

What do i do about this situation because i’m genuinely at a loss?

so to make a super long story short, my husband and i are separated and basically roommates because it’s complicated financially and blah blah blah. i’ve been on birth control because i DO NOT want another baby we had 2u2(13m apart) and it was hell. the second baby was fully his fault(he admitted to getting me pregnant when i was drunk because he wanted a son but that’s another story) and i was very unhappy and still am because i just did not want this situation. my postpartum was horrible with my first and worse with my second. anyways i switched birth controls on wednesday and wasn’t thinking much of it. i had an unexpected 👅night👅 (not with him) early saturday morning (12/1am) and he pulled out but he definitely finished super quick (like 2min tops quick) and i worry he didn’t pull out soon enough. funny (not funny) enough my husband made a comment saturday around noon about me smelling like i was ovulating. i took a test and damn sure it was as positive as you can get. i’m kinda stressing now and i’m not sure what to do. my situation is complicated and while I’m not cheating it would definitely cause a lot of unnecessary drama if i was pregnant, especially with who the other guy is. it would complicate things with both our lives/families honestly. i’m worried because i genuinely didn’t think the birth control switch would mess with my hormones that quickly. i had mentioned a condom but the guy didn’t wanna get the special kind i need (i’m highly allergic to latex) and promised he just wouldn’t finish in me. it was super last minute and everything and we were both heavily intoxicated but i feel stupid. also we do kinda have a huge age gap (he’s 48 and i’m 23) so there’s that. anywaysssss i need advice please that’s nonjudgmental. i have a very hard relationship with my parents and i don’t have any friends really either. i’ve been isolated for a while.

Dad not agreeing to have son when I want to go for a weekend break.

Right, so this might be a long one. My son is 3 and me and his dad broke up nearly a year ago. It’s been up and down but I’ve done my best for it to stay civil for my son.
Anyway, I asked him about having his son for a long weekend as it’s my 30th this year. He agreed. He then said he was going on holiday for a full week and wanted to swap weekends over. I said that was fine (Makes sense why he agreed about my time away so easily)

This was a couple months ago…
Last night he decided to tell me that he will look after OUR son but everyday he loses from work, he will deduct from child maintenance?
So if he gets 220 a day and loses that, that’s going to be 4 weeks no payments.

Surly this is all about control right?

I literally was looking for the weekend that’s his weekend with my son anyway, so it’s only 1-2 days he would need off and believe me all the stuff I’ve helped him with, including sorting his flat, car and just making sure he’s all set up and he just continuously messes me about and tries to control everything.

Am I right or wrong? What can I do?
If I went to family court, would they sort out an agreement regarding holidays per year/the other parent agreeing to be fair. Like for example, one week per parent can go away and we have to accept it.
As well as the usual every other weekend stuff

Thank you, hope that makes sense! Any advice welcome x

My son‘s broken two TVs

My husband bought a 70 inch TV after my son has broken two TVs😩 we have been so strict about don’t touch the damn TV but now I’m low-key freaking out because that TV is expensive. How do I make sure he doesn’t mess with it?

Nursery or Childminder?

What are people's preference when going back to work?

My little boy will be a year old when I return to work.

I'd much rather a child minder whilst he is still so small but my partner would rather him be placed in a nursery and we just can't come to an agreement on this.

What are everyone's experiences on both and their pros and cons.

Thank you x

Is this very immature or was he fed up with me not answering the phone?

My dad calls but I find it draining speaking to him and sometimes I’m busy. I answer more when he just texts me and I didn’t tell him that but I would think he would notice . Yesterday was my birthday and he called at 8:46 pm. I didn’t answer. He left a voicemail in a rushed way saying happy birthday wish you good health. Then he sent me a nasty text saying he’s fed up with calling and for me to just say I want to be left alone & it’s no point calling when someone doesn’t want to talk to you. Then he said if he dies before me that he’s going to make sure to tell my sister to not let me into his funeral🥴. I ended up writing back oh no poor you it’s my birthday and people answer when they can you think I’m sitting down doing nothing and I told him fuck him for talking to me like that on my bday and I don’t care what he tells my sister. This was in Spanish by the way.