Parks. Germs.

Did you all avoid parks until a certain age due to germs etc.
So for example my 1 YO puts her hands in her mouth all the time but LOVES going to the park.
I do know someone whos children got hands foot and mouth disease.

So with all that in mind should I just wait to take her to public parks until shes old enough to understand not to put her hands in her mouth??.
First time mom. So please share some helpful advice.
Im also ordering her a playset swing and slide for our personal backyard.

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Personally, no. We were at the park all the time!
What are you going to do when they go to nursery/ school? Or if you have another? You can’t stop the older one going to the park just cos they’ve got a sibling?

You’d be waiting a really long time for them to completely stop putting things in their mouths 🥴 we don’t avoid any public spaces in particular, but we also don’t have anyone in the family who is immunocompromised. Practice good handwashing and go where’d you like would be my advice!

You can't avoid germs... It's just the way of the world unfortunately, your kids are gonna get sick no matter how much you try to shield them

The park is probably the place I feel safest taking them because it’s outdoors! I always feel like they’re less likely to catch something there compared to play groups and indoor soft play centres 😅

If you’re really worried, take some Milton antibacterial surface wipes or something similar. You can wipe down like swing handles and stuff before they use it, and it might make you feel more comfortable! But no, if my baby is otherwise healthy I wouldn’t avoid parks ☺️

We started going to playgrounds as soon as he could climb the stairs to the slide so about 10.5 months

Personally no, I started taking my son to the park once he was confidently sitting up independently. We used to play in the swings or the grass, or climbing frame in the baby/toddler section of the park. I had to watch him like a hawk as naturally they put things in their mouth, but he absolutely loved the park and as he grew and got more mobile he was able to play and do more. The same with playgroups we started going when he was 6 months I do wish I stated earlier tbh, but again he loves them and we still go now. As mentioned above I carry anti bac gel, wipes and surface wipes for hands and tables when hes going to eat snack, or lunch if we are out xx

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