Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Stay At Home Moms working or not working

Does anyone feel pressured to work from not only spouse but people within your circle?
Also, does anyone feel like no one gets how much of a task it is to actually take care of a baby full time? Now one around me think it’s worth feeling down or mentioning. Mind you, there is people who actually babysitting for a living and make money off the same task we do for free so why shouldn’t my day be just as hard as anyone working. At a job, you get directives and you follow, most cases it’s a repetitive routine but with a kid, they’re unpredictable. You don’t live for yourself . Most days you feel like it’s u the baby and four walls . Am I the only one that feels this way?

in our community

What do you think?

My spouse and I are very wealthy. Like retire today kinda wealthy and never work again. My husband works just to pay our bills for now but we are set for life whenever we want to tap into that money. My cousin says we are ridiculous for how we choose to live. We drive 1 car, we don’t eat out (I love to cook and it’s healthier for our fam), and we generally entertain our kids outside on the trail and park. We have worn the same clothes for the past 5-10 years. We just aren’t shopping kind of people. Are we ridiculous. If I’m being honest, our net worth is 3 million (cash, investments and property values today, no debt). Is it ridiculous we don’t buy stuff ? My cousin says we live like bums and he finds it ridiculous that we work and bring an income in from our rental properties. We also donate a lot of our money and buy nice gifts for others.

Funded hours only

My son is meant to start nursery next month. We will be doing the funded hours only so 2 days a week. We have now been told by the nursery that we cannot opt in for the extra costs such as meals, nappies and extra activities. Meaning my son cannot eat the nursery provided meals and will be excluded from certain activities. I understand meals and such are not covered by the government funding and we are happy to pay extra for this but nursery said we can't do that.

To me it sounds like complete BS and coercive behaviour to make us pay more for extra hours. They said this is not nursery policy but a government policy but I can't find anything about this online.

Does anyone do funded hours only and experienced this as well?

Stealing at work

Okay, someone or some people have been stealing at work

It's a place where certain people could set you up to make it look like you.

I don't have access to the equipment regularly, but sometimes use it during the course of the day.

It's things like a camera, two small computers and a laptop

Any ideas about how to navigate this if someone is trying to blame you or happened to do it when you were on duty?

Bare minimum

As a stay at home mom what’s expected of you??
What’s expected of your partner who works as a police officer sometimes working 18 hour shifts.
I’m having so many issues not seeing eye to eye with my partner because he doesn’t really do anything at home like at all. And little things like walking the dogs and playing with the babies he feels as though are big accomplishments but to me they’re bare minimum ???
Need advice on how to move on with this or have a talk to see eye to eye

Peeing thru diaper

Hello so I have a 2 week old son he’s always peeing through the back of his diapers soaking his clothes and swaddle any recommendations ? Lol I’m a first time boy mom I didn’t have this problem with my daughter

Just packed my bags. Now I don’t know where to go… did I over react?

My husband and I had the best relationship ever when we first started dating, but then some thing happened that made him depressed along with some other mental health concerns, and he got really heavy into drinking and became an alcoholic. We hit some of our lowest point, and he became abusive a few times, and finally after one really bad night, he agreed to get sober. He went to rehab/AA, and he came back the man I loved again. Things were great for few years. We had our baby, bought a house, and built a life. Then he relapsed one night, and that was all it took. That same night he got into a bad accident that left him permanently disabled. Life got way worse for us at that point, but I stood by him and he promised never to drink again, and I told him if he drank even one drop, I would take the kids and leave him.

Tonight I came home from work, and he home with our female neighbor and her kids, and they were both drinking. Empty bottles lined the counter, and they were drinking different things, so I knew how many he had, and it was a lot. I asked if she brought them over (she did. I don’t know why or why she was even there). But I didn’t say a word and just went back to our bedroom and started packing a bag. He didn’t say anything and stayed in the kitchen with her chatting, mainly because I don’t think he realized I was packing. When I came back out, I was crying and carrying bags, and this girl made no effort to move out of my or leave our home. She just sat there all cocky while I packed everything. When ge noticed I was packing, his face kind of dropped and his eyes looked sad and he said “are you really leaving?” And I said yes. I told our kid to put their shoes on, and said we were just leaving for a while, and they asked to stay but he told them to listen to me because mom is boss, and gave them a big hug. Once they were in the car, he was on the porch with this girl now, and I looked at him and said “you’re not going even going to pretend to stop me?” At this point his best friend pulls up and immediately realized we were fighting. I like this friend, and I do respect him, so I hated that at this point my husband was making me look crazy in front of him and this girl, and just laughing like I didn’t matter. I told him if he left with his friend then I would be delivering him divorce papers, and it would be more than a brief separation. He got in the car and left anyways, leaving me with this lady and her kids. I locked the front door, got in my car and left. I don’t actually have anywhere to go, but I feel like I can’t go back. The whole situation was horrible, and I’m scared if I put my tail between my legs and return, he’ll think he can do anything. He did privately message me and said he drank because his mind was taking him to a dark place, but I told him I didn’t want to hear it. He knew the rule, and then on top of it he lied about both drinking in the firsts place and about spending time with this lady. Apparently they’ve been hanging out every day, and her kids have a weird relationship with him too. His relationship with this woman is not sexual, but all emotional. I guess she’s unemployed, and he can’t work because of his disability, so when I take our kid to school and go to work, she comes over with her kids and they play happy family during the day, which is fucking weird. Like mini trips together and hanging out at the house and stuff.

I’m so disgusted and angry right now, but as I start to calm down and the realization that I have no where to go sinks in, I’m starting to feel like I acted to rash.