In-law issues (long one sorry)

I’ve never felt welcomed by my in-laws, in fact my father in law called me “favor of the month” one of the first times I met him. He is the type of guy you can not disagree with/ have a different opinion or he will shut down. Which I do disagree with him 99% of the time because I’m going to have my own opinion. She is sheltered and goes along with whatever her husband says. Fast forward my husband and I have been together 10 years, married for almost 6 and have two kids together. I haven’t seen my in-laws since end of January 2025. I sent the invitation for my daughter’s 3rd birthday in May of ‘25 and they said no, I invited them to my son’s first birthday October of ‘25, they said they can’t come. I invited them to Christmas at our house, they said no because their dog has anxiety and can’t be left alone for that long. My husband invited them for dinner in January of ‘26, they declined cuz of the dog. Christmas was my last straw and I no longer want them involved in my or my children’s life because they make no effort and I don’t need people in and out of my kids life’s.
My husband was on the phone with his dad today and he said “I hope she figures out those walls that she has put up, MY grandkids don’t even know us” IM SHOCKED. WTF

My family says I need to keep reaching out because “birthday and holidays invites are bare minimum” but I’m over it and I’m over being mistreated.

in our community

Parks. Germs.

Did you all avoid parks until a certain age due to germs etc.
So for example my 1 YO puts her hands in her mouth all the time but LOVES going to the park.
I do know someone whos children got hands foot and mouth disease.

So with all that in mind should I just wait to take her to public parks until shes old enough to understand not to put her hands in her mouth??.
First time mom. So please share some helpful advice.
Im also ordering her a playset swing and slide for our personal backyard.

Jealous passive aggressive grandparents?

Does anyone else deal with this?
I’m returning to work soon and my mom is going to take care of our baby while I’m at work full time.
When my in-laws found out, there was an awkward moment and I can tell they were concerned about it. They later asked my husband why we’re not considering working from home to care for baby instead (we can’t in our fields and also how can we work and take care of a baby at the same time) and if we considered daycare (we would be saving so much childcare costs with my mom). My MIL also made weird comments like “oh so she will get used to being at your mom’s house..” and “will she have the TV on at your moms house”
It seems like very passive aggressive comments to me and my parents have no idea (they’re just being helpful)
My in-laws are a lot older and granted can’t do a lot of babysitting besides waving to our baby and holding her for a few minutes at a time. They also never drive to see us we have to go to them.
I want them to feel included but I admit we visit my parents more because they live a little closer and it is an actual break for me as my parents can help me with baby. I trust my mom alone with my baby, not so much with my in-laws and my husband also agrees. My husband suggested we spend weekends with his parents so they don’t feel left out but it’s annoying to have to worry about that too when we’re still trying to balance new parent life.
Has anyone else been through something similar and how did you navigate it?

Funded hours only

My son is meant to start nursery next month. We will be doing the funded hours only so 2 days a week. We have now been told by the nursery that we cannot opt in for the extra costs such as meals, nappies and extra activities. Meaning my son cannot eat the nursery provided meals and will be excluded from certain activities. I understand meals and such are not covered by the government funding and we are happy to pay extra for this but nursery said we can't do that.

To me it sounds like complete BS and coercive behaviour to make us pay more for extra hours. They said this is not nursery policy but a government policy but I can't find anything about this online.

Does anyone do funded hours only and experienced this as well?

Bare minimum

As a stay at home mom what’s expected of you??
What’s expected of your partner who works as a police officer sometimes working 18 hour shifts.
I’m having so many issues not seeing eye to eye with my partner because he doesn’t really do anything at home like at all. And little things like walking the dogs and playing with the babies he feels as though are big accomplishments but to me they’re bare minimum ???
Need advice on how to move on with this or have a talk to see eye to eye

Stealing at work

Okay, someone or some people have been stealing at work

It's a place where certain people could set you up to make it look like you.

I don't have access to the equipment regularly, but sometimes use it during the course of the day.

It's things like a camera, two small computers and a laptop

Any ideas about how to navigate this if someone is trying to blame you or happened to do it when you were on duty?

What do you think?

My spouse and I are very wealthy. Like retire today kinda wealthy and never work again. My husband works just to pay our bills for now but we are set for life whenever we want to tap into that money. My cousin says we are ridiculous for how we choose to live. We drive 1 car, we don’t eat out (I love to cook and it’s healthier for our fam), and we generally entertain our kids outside on the trail and park. We have worn the same clothes for the past 5-10 years. We just aren’t shopping kind of people. Are we ridiculous. If I’m being honest, our net worth is 3 million (cash, investments and property values today, no debt). Is it ridiculous we don’t buy stuff ? My cousin says we live like bums and he finds it ridiculous that we work and bring an income in from our rental properties. We also donate a lot of our money and buy nice gifts for others.