I am absolutely and completely tired of this.
WWYD?

I also do laundry, mine (3 kids & put away), towels, blankets, sofa blankets. He leaves dishes for 3 days and I got tired of it sitting in dirty water in the sink so I threw out my pots and pans. Less stuff to wash right? i threw out my instant pot because he wouldn’t clean it and it would sit on the counter, I minimized so much stuff in the home to have less stuff for me to clean because he is simply thinking that his job as a police officer is more important than what he does in the home! I am completely angry. he doesn’t clean the bathrooms we have so I have to hire someone to just come and clean them so I am caught up with house work. I’m currently on break with my college and almost graduated but I mostly do everything myself. Thank god I have child care for my youngest now! however he still expects me to run the whole house by myself and I am getting tired of doing it alone. nothing changes with him.

some of you voted to get a better set up? but what set up should I get?? this table set is near 1k we have a high counter but to get high bar stools and feed the baby how?? 😞

So you're frustrated... But then you're still having sex... Why? Because he asked?

Most men are pigs they don't like to clean up at all. It's disgusting but somehow they are ok living like that and expect us to clean up everything. From what I've seen on here most men dont do much of anything to help their GFS and wives clean up our hero with the babies. It's terrible! You're set up is great! I personally would withhold sex until he helps you out. Why does he get what he wants and you don't get what you want. That is unfair. Show him that you mean business and that he has to help.

Girl that is despicable as hell. My husband works all day as a director at a senior living facility so that is a tiring job. He still helps me with the kids and with cleaning up and vacuuming. Tell him he’s not getting shit until he steps up like a man and helps you out. That’s so nasty about the dishes.

Jesus stop having sex with that man

I have a few sayings in my house that might help:

You drop it, you pick it
You mess it, you clean it

Before the kids get anything they want they have to make sure things are tidy (usually its toys everywhere that'll get picked up and put away)
A rule that started when they were young is when you finish eating you clear your plate to the kitchen. I'm now working on getting them to clean the table after themselves and sweep the floor around the dinner table.

I explain that this their house too so they have to play their part in looking after it.

Sounds like your husband needs to be part of that training too. Give him his part to play too.

Lol. Im so sorry dear. A few things i recommend is ….
Couple counseling since he doesn’t hear you. Maybe the police department offers eap services where u can do online counceling services to help him see your side.
How old are the kids. Are they able to be taught to clean after they eat?
Self care! How is taking time to pour into your cup. Do you ever just leave him with the kids to go have an ice cream or go on a target run? Do you buy things u like specifically for yourself. Spend “his” money to reward yourself for your work and do it routinely.
Potentially no sex, no cooking for him, and no sleeping in the same bed until he gets the picture. And leave him with the kids alone more frequently.