In-law issues (long one sorry)
I’ve never felt welcomed by my in-laws, in fact my father in law called me “favor of the month” one of the first times I met him. He is the type of guy you can not disagree with/ have a different opinion or he will shut down. Which I do disagree with him 99% of the time because I’m going to have my own opinion. She is sheltered and goes along with whatever her husband says. Fast forward my husband and I have been together 10 years, married for almost 6 and have two kids together. I haven’t seen my in-laws since end of January 2025. I sent the invitation for my daughter’s 3rd birthday in May of ‘25 and they said no, I invited them to my son’s first birthday October of ‘25, they said they can’t come. I invited them to Christmas at our house, they said no because their dog has anxiety and can’t be left alone for that long. My husband invited them for dinner in January of ‘26, they declined cuz of the dog. Christmas was my last straw and I no longer want them involved in my or my children’s life because they make no effort and I don’t need people in and out of my kids life’s.
My husband was on the phone with his dad today and he said “I hope she figures out those walls that she has put up, MY grandkids don’t even know us” IM SHOCKED. WTF
My family says I need to keep reaching out because “birthday and holidays invites are bare minimum” but I’m over it and I’m over being mistreated.
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN IN a similar SITUATION?
If yes, what did you do to help your child and yourself?
This is what happened:⏬
We were playing outside on the balcony, but it wasn’t very safe for him because of the dirt and other things, so we came back inside. I washed his hands. He was crying a little at that point.
I then tried to calm him down and breastfed him. He settled briefly but then started crying again. This time the crying intensified because he was very upset. At one point, his cry became silent and his body became stiff, and his mouth was open.
I immediately responded, held him tightly, and called his name out loud. After a short moment, his body relaxed and returned to normal.
He seemed a bit shocked afterward, as if confused about what had just happened. I comforted him and said, “Mama is here, you are okay.” Then I became very emotional and cried🥹
Stay At Home Moms working or not working
Does anyone feel pressured to work from not only spouse but people within your circle?
Also, does anyone feel like no one gets how much of a task it is to actually take care of a baby full time? Now one around me think it’s worth feeling down or mentioning. Mind you, there is people who actually babysitting for a living and make money off the same task we do for free so why shouldn’t my day be just as hard as anyone working. At a job, you get directives and you follow, most cases it’s a repetitive routine but with a kid, they’re unpredictable. You don’t live for yourself . Most days you feel like it’s u the baby and four walls . Am I the only one that feels this way?
