I miss my old life

I love my little 4 month girl to pieces but on days like today, sunny bank holiday weekend, I really miss my old life.
I would have loved to sit in the garden and listen to music, have a few beers carefree. But we were trapped inside keeping her cool listening to neighbours have bbqs etc.

I think because ive had her in my late 30s I was so used to my lifestyle that its really difficult giving every second of my day over. Does anyone else struggle with this?

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Could you not have her outside in a sunshade or with sun cream and a hat on while having a bbq?

I can totally relate. Love my baby but every activity now feels sooo boring. Days feel super long and I just can’t enjoy this phase other than for the smiles, chuckles and sounds he makes.
I miss being able to hangout with friends like before, going outside anywhere feels like a task I don’t even want to go nowhere half of the time with him.
I just can’t wait for him to be older and be able to play together, I’m used to play and hangout with older kids so this is all so new to me I don’t know how to make it enjoyable.

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