This is a bit personal me asking but would you allow your husband/partner to masturbate/lust over other women/females if you just can’t have sex with him. Sometimes we go days and weeks even without sex but ngl this has felt like the longest I have ever gone without having sex or doing anything sexual with him. We have a very playful relationship and for the most part we’re best friends but the sex life isn’t there anymore. Part of it being I have this lifelong disease that stops me from having sexual course or getting in the mood. So it may be a few days out of the week/month when I’m good down there. Also, my sex drive has just been very low lately which sucks. I don’t want him to suffer just because I can’t be sexual. So would you allow it? He already looks at porn and tumblr so it’s like should I just give up and let him do him
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I’m confused how this is different than porn. Are you talking about watch people in real life? Absolutely not.

Porn is not okay to me. If he would want to watch porn I couldn’t be with him

I agree with Haley, I don't see the difference between what you've described and porn. But anything IRL would be a no for me.

I just don’t see how this is different than porn personally. It’s just another kind of porn so it seems weird that he would be able to watch certain kinds but not others. If that makes sense.
Porn in relationships is a personal decision and what you are comfortable with might be different than others. Personally I would be okay with this because we allow porn in our relationship

Like live cam girls? No
I’m fine with porn but for some reason that would be too much for me.
And why? Regular porn isn’t doing it for him anymore?

Masturbating isn't cheating