Family visits

Hey there
Just wondering peoples thought we have kept in our 2 week bubble since our daughters birth and today been the first day of social gathering with family with in-laws. However I am sat here now feeling really upset and overwhelmed of how it went. As in arrived my baby was asleep in the pram and mother in law helped herself to my daughter woke her up and then the evening kind of felt like she was passed about people changed her without asking. Yes was lovely seeing everyone but it’s left me feeling quite upset and come home not wanting to stop holding my daughter like is that wrong I’m feeling like this x

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The same has happened to me and it’s AWFUL. Very clear aggressive lines have since been stamped and you only hold my baby if you are seated and I give him to you. In no way are you allowed to lift him from his pram.
It’s so hard because especially when it’s not your people you don’t know how to intervene. If it was my mom I could bark at her, but I also wouldn’t. MILs…need to back off just a little x

Totally agree she forgets I’m not her daughter and my mum is totally different character

That actually would upset me. The changing? Like my babys diaper?!?!? Absolutely the fuck not.

Your baby is 2 wks. There was no need to pass her around like shes a prop. Talk to your partner so that they can address their families and so that you two are on the same page about expectations when it comes to visitors and baby.

I would be very upset knowing other people changed my baby’s diaper without asking.

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