Who’s wrong?

My husband and I go out with another couple. They start venting all their issues. My husband pulls the woman aside because he says my input is escalating the convo. (We had all been drinking).
So he ends up talking to her and I to the guy separately for like 3 hours both sides just airing all their grievances. We all reconvene and discuss some of the things said- maybe 30 mins?
In the car I ask husband “so what dis she say” He goes “who”. I’m now annoyed because who else???? So after I respond clearly irritated he then asks “when?” Clearly when you guys were away from the group! He’s mad at my responses and that I got annoyed. I’m mad he’s asking obvious questions and we fight. He ends up never answering. Next day we’re not talking. Who’s wrong.

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Hahaha what the heck is this situation. 😂 sounds like a scene from the movie 'Couple's retreat'.

Maybe he asked who and when because you had already discussed as a group what had been said ?

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This is so pointless and has 0 to do with your relationship. Y'all need to choose your battles. Idk why you'd need to be that invested anyway.
Also alcohol was involved

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Everyone involved needs to go have a timeout. You all acted like teenagers.

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He sounds avoidant

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Who’s wrong?

My husband and I go out with another couple. They start venting all their issues. My husband pulls the woman aside because he says my input is escalating the convo. (We had all been drinking).
So he ends up talking to her and I to the guy separately for like 3 hours both sides just airing all their grievances. We all reconvene and discuss some of the things said- maybe 30 mins?
In the car I ask husband “so what dis she say” He goes “who”. I’m now annoyed because who else???? So after I respond clearly irritated he then asks “when?” Clearly when you guys were away from the group! He’s mad at my responses and that I got annoyed. I’m mad he’s asking obvious questions and we fight. He ends up never answering. Next day we’re not talking. Who’s wrong.

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