what are you and your baby doing in this heat?

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I can’t do this..

I have a toddler and a newborn. I can’t stand being a mom I keep having thoughts of why would I do this. If it wasn’t for my husband helping so much I don’t think I would have made it this far. I want to run away. I loose my patience on my toddler why the f would I add another. I was finally feeling myself again now I have to start all over… I’m scared I don’t want to do this.

Dad going back to work

First time mum to a baby girl who was born end of April at 36 weeks. My husband is going back to work today and I honestly feel like I’m not going to cope at all. He has been off work for four weeks and with me every single day, he was off and with me the whole week before I had an emergency c section because I was quite poorly and the first three weeks of baby as he extended his paternity by one more week. I have honestly been dreading this day SO much since we came home from hospital with baby, and now it’s here, I feel incredible anxiety.

I am pretty much exclusively breastfeeding baby girl, she has one formula bottle in the evening before bed generally or middle of the night but I give that feed to. My husband does every nappy change, outfit change, settled her when I’m tapped out and constantly makes sure I have food and a drink whilst doing all the house work as I seem to constantly be sat down feeding as we are going in and out of cluster feeding every few days. How am I going to cope without that constant support? 😩

I do have some support from family but a lot of them work full time/during the day so can’t help too much when he is in work. My mum doesn’t work but unfortunately our family dog gets too over excited when I am there with the baby and it’s a bit of a nightmare so it’s not like I can even pop there when I am overwhelmed because of that situation.

I have found the entrance into motherhood really up and down. Some days we have good days, she feeds well, naps well, goes down well at night, we can manage to get out for a small walk or a small outing and I feel like we have archived something then the next day things can all go to shit and I feel like I haven’t got an absolute clue how to look after her or settle her. We seem to be going through a few days of cluster feeding where she’s really unsettled and doesn’t sleep then after a day or two it gets better then we go into it again. I don’t do well in general with lack of sleep, never have!, but I’m trying my best to push on. This heatwave is also NOT helping.

I don’t exactly know what I’m looking for out of this post, maybe some advice on how you coped, tips on how to be organised and make the days easier when you only have one pair of hands, some support and encouragement because at the moment, I just feel like the future is hopeless, I won’t be happy again and I just feel like I’ll be trapped in the house every day of my maternity leave just trying to survive.

Whilst I feel all these emotions, I’m sat here crying because of the guilt of feeling like this because I know I am SO lucky to have a supportive husband and to have a beautiful baby girl.

Thank you if you’ve made it this far 💕

vent pregnancy announcement

so im a little annoyed and maybe being a little sensitive (which ok yeah probably, but my feelings are valid & I feel like I was right)

my husband and I announced to his extended family that we were expecting in a group chat, especially since we had a family party coming up that weekend and the week before when we met with a few cousins, apparently some already knew and were congratulating us before we had even officially announced it, so that pmo. 🥊

I just felt like no one in the chat gaf. yes they congratulated us but then they started joking that this upcoming party was gonna be a cross between a baby shower, grad party & kid bday party. that comment annoyed me.

I felt like people were boasting more about my husbands brother&sister graduations (my husband is the eldest child) then our baby on the way??? I just lowkey dislike his family.

yes I might be sensitive and its really not a big deal in the grand scheme of things but it bothered me.

THEN at the party they were looking at me sideways for not giving any solid information about the baby’s due date, gender (we genuinely dont know atm) like I owed them something???? 🙃

vent over, thank you for coming to my ted talk

10 month old barely eating in this heat

I’m worried as my little boy is barely eating atm. I’m putting it down to the heat as it’s only happened the last 3 days. He’s having maybe a quarter of his morning porridge and then spitting out everything else throughout the day/ having a tantrum in the high chair. Finger foods I give him to munch on as he runs about just get dropped.

He’s full of energy and been walking for 2 months now but I just worry as he doesn’t stop- he’s running around the house and then not eating anything. Won’t his weight drop?
He will have water which is the only godsend.
Anyone else in the same boat? How do people manage this?

BD buying a house

So I’ve been with my man 2 years and some months we have a 4 month old baby, not married. Been living together for a year I’m a SAHM before my baby I had a great career that paid good. My man is looking into buying a house for us and his family (mom, sister, nephew, brother). He’s putting down 10k and the brother is putting down 10k. I mentioned wanting my name on the paperwork so I can’t just be kicked out on my ass no money, no where to go mind you I don’t have any family around me. My man was hesitant and started asking why like I’m a malicious person and will try to take the house from them. To end the conversation he told me I have to ask his family if thats ok. I don’t have bad intentions I just want to feel secured. Am I wrong or being a brat if I want separate and go back to work to be able to buy a house for my daughter and I? Something I can call my own and be comfortable in.

Sexless marriage

So in therapy we talk a lot about the fact we don’t have intercourse and his excuse is that he doesn’t have the drive that I do and it takes him a long time to finish. We literally had therapy today and then I catch him tonight sorting himself out while watching porn!!! I’m so fucking mad. What do I do?