Postpartum dad struggling?

Hi I’ve noticed my partner is struggling to cope quite bad . He seems very irritable & short fuse since little one was born ( his first ). It’s not anything either children is doing or anything that irritates him directly either . I’ve noticed he also seems to panic when settling little one ( if it goes on too long he’ll ask me to settle her because he gets extremely overwhelmed) . How do we combat this together? I’m concerned he needs therapy or some type of help because we’re week 4 nearly & it’s not improving from current state . Any advice please?

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Im wondering if youre a sahm and your husbands the only one working and bringing in money does he give you money or your own debit card?

My husband doesnt so were literally stuck at home wen hes working always. I also feel guilty spending his money.

Am I wrong to feel a way?

Asked my childs father if he wanted to spend the night with his son. The baby is 5.5 weeks and wanted him to get that time with him as well before he goes back to work next week. All I asked was if he could keep him on his night schedule because I’ve gotten him to sleep really good at night and this was his response.

How do u deal with this?

So recently my stepdad (soon to be ex-stepdad because him and my mom are getting divorced) found out I’m pregnant, by recently, I mean yesterday.
At first he was acting like he’s so supportive but being a typical co-parent and also being disappointed. So today I’m waking up from my sleep to go to work and I hear him outside complaining and being two-faced about the whole situation. He’s basically was blaming my mom for letting my boyfriend so call “groom” me and me getting pregnant and a bunch of other stuff.
I’m trying to keep myself calm and collected and not lose my cool but he’s not making it easy for me to feel comfortable in ny house if he’s gonna act one way in front of me and then go act a different way behind my back. I’m trying to give him a chance but I’ve given him many chances and honestly I’m not trying to deal with this for the rest of my pregnancy and after because that’s only increasing my chance of postpartum.
Can anyone tell me how I should deal with this because at this point I’m gonna lose it

If your child’s baby father’s sister died, would sending a red heart with a condolence message inappropriate when your man tells you not to?

My man thinks I have feelings for my baby father because I sent a red heart with condolences. When my dad passed away, I’ve received messages with many hearts from people. I wasn’t trying to be flirtatious or give off any kind of vibe like that. It’s just a condolence message. He’s so upset about it making it a big deal. I don’t care for my baby father. But my man keeps accusing me that I do. Annoying af.

Venting

Omfg we had our 3 kids (18 months, 3, & 6) in 4 and a half years and I swear to fucking god I haven’t finished a train of thought, task, meal in peace since. Like not one single thing. My eldest is probably gifted, probably adhd, and she’s always talking, asking questions, pestering. The younger two are toddlers. I just tried to put together a new piece of furniture and my youngest is messing it all up (I should have done it during her nap, I know. I’m just so sick of not being able to “just do” something). I messed up the table, because my toddler was fucking around with everything. Now she won’t nap and I can hear my eldest about to run in to ask me something annoying like “can I have cake?” Even though she’s sick home from school.

I NEED A HOLIDAY DO FREAKING BAD.

Is this annoying?

My MIL only ever wants to go out with me and my kids if it’s eating.

She’s never really been out with my kids (age 7+) besides 1 time last year where my partner forced her to come for a day out around the city with us, she tried to cancel but he insisted she comes. Over the years I had invited her out for example, after Covid lockdown I was taking them to the park 5 minutes away and she cancelled with the excuse that she wanted to shower…

The issue is, with all respect, she is very lazy. She doesn’t like to go out unless it’s something that benefits her like a party or restaurant or date etc. the only time she ever suggests going out is if it’s to a restaurant to eat. For example, occasionally when it’s school break she will suggest us to do something with the kids, I’m like ofcourse! But then she will say let’s go to this restaurant or that restaurant.

As much as it’s still nice, if it’s school break and she wants to go out with the kids there are much better things they’d prefer to do then sit in a restaurant. We could take them for a walk, to the park, do an activity etc. I also think it’s partly because she never did any of those things with her own children.

So today she has suggested we go to eat out, but it’s a warm sunny day and I much rather get them out to be active