Is this annoying?

I guess that’s just how she is. You can’t change a person and the way they are. I see nothing wrong with this. If you wanna do this other stuff, I suggest doing it with someone else. Idk why it’s annoying because someone doesn’t want to do what you want to do.

I have learned that some people are so different than me. Im just like you where i prefer going to the park over going to a restaurant. But i know so many people who prefer the restaurant 😂 I have learned to compromise with people by saying “ want to go to the park and grab a bite to eat after or a snack?” But i try to make it sound appetizing? 😂 such as, “ i know this spot where they have amazing desserts! We need to try it after our walk!” People love that haha

She's offering to spend time with you and your children, more than some parents do. Does she pay? 🤣🤣

I mean, I’ll guess I’ll take it 💁🏻‍♀️😂 I’m a huge foodie though so I don’t mind trying out this restaurant that restaurant. But, mainly we stop to eat at wherever from our day out, rather than going somewhere specifically to eat. Like we go to a lot of festivals/markets, while walking we eat from food trucks while enjoying the festival. Or we’ll go to the city, or zoo, and when time to eat we’ll choose a nice cafe etc. To me it just sounds like she’s a huge foodie and likes eating out, nothing wrong w that I guess but when kids are involved it’s better to stop to eat after a fun morning/arvo out. My MIL is old though so we’ve never been out w her, I tend to go out w my sisters and mum friends more often. Maybe she doesn’t like walking (aka lazy 😂). I have my own bucket list of bars/cafes/restaurants/clubs that I wanna tick off one by one.

Could you suggest a picnic for you and her while you guys watch the kids play? Or a cool new ice cream/ dessert truck. I mean, would she ever take the kids to the restaurant by herself and you can get yourself a nap or nails done 😂

It would bug me too, because other activities would mean she bonds and interacts in different ways. It’s still contact though I guess and ultimately, her loss not seeing the kids do other activities!

So she has some self respecting boundaries. Good for her. You can always decline her offer and say you made plans to get out in the sun and she's welcome if she wants. If she doesn't want to so be it. That's her boundary

She is offering to spend time with them. But sitting down in an environment that works for her. Calling that lazy and selfish is a bit of a judgemental perspective in my opinion.

My mother is like this, won’t take part in anything that requires her to walk. Only goes out if food is involved (and occasionally shopping for clothes and such). But very rarely wants to take part in outings that would actually benefit the kids and get her engage in a different way than sitting at a table together. But my gripes are more due to her sedentary way of life and the fact that she won’t DO anything or leave the house in general. She’s very overweight and now struggles to walk, so her unwillingness to do anything else gets under my skin because I know it would benefit HER more than anything else.