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Im wondering if youre a sahm and your husbands the only one working and bringing in money does he give you money or your own debit card?

My husband doesnt so were literally stuck at home wen hes working always. I also feel guilty spending his money.

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whats his is yours babe.... there is no his money or her money... its YOUR money together...

We have a joint bank account- you shouldn’t feel guilty at all.

He’s gives me money that I can spend but he’s very generous with it. I don’t want unlimited access to his money because I’m very bad with money and have had lots of debt in the past.

In the beginning I had an allowance for my bills and such. About 3 years in he took on/paid off my debt. So now he gives me my car payment monthly <$600 and I have a credit card attached to his accounts in my name that I’m requested to spend less then $500 that he pays, but also like say he sees $1400 from me but i bought something for the house, then it’s null and void. Ya know? So it’s really just hey, don’t go crazy with stuff we don’t need for home you or bubs.

Do what works for you. You should have access to some money to do things with. Or have a debit card in your name to his account or he can give u his card. Something. I have my personal card and his account is attached as payment method. So i purchase and he pays it. I dnt just go crazy though.

And you shouldnt feel guilty. Literally price out the cost of childcare, chef, housekeeper, and a personal shopper and organizer. Add all that up. That would be coming from his paycheck if u were not there. Thats the amount you contribute to the family. 1200-2000 on the lower side of things. So “his” money is your money too.

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