SAHM thinking about childcare

I’m spent and considering part time childcare even though I’m at home. Found a place that can give me 2 times a week. Feeling a bit guilty about it but I have no help- no nanny , no parents or anyone to help me besides my partner who does his best but works nights. Any thoughts? For context I have an almost 9 month old.

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If you need it and you can afford it, you shouldn't feel guilty.

I’m just gonna say this as someone who has worked as a daycare teacher they don’t always report incidents, which is why I have refused to take my son to a daycare. My partner works 12 hours a day. I don’t have help and I’m a full-time student dealing with a hormonal disorder and a lot more other disorders anyways, I refuse to let my child go to daycare due to abuse that has been coming up recently all over the world in daycare’s that’s the only thing that I feel you should consider when it comes to guilt. You won’t be there when they pinch your son smack the back of his head or your daughter. I don’t know what you have, but that’s the stuff that happens behind those closed doors and those very large payments you’re gonna make.

Maybe consider a nanny or a sitter? It may be cheaper in the long run. I'm going to be using one and I have cameras all throughout my house.

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Accident nursery poo,

Got a call from nursery today to say my daughter had taken her nappy/trousers off, got poo everywhere and even put some in her mouth 😩

Has anyone else’s little one ever gone through a phase like this? She is potty training!

Please tell me I’m not alone because I genuinely don’t know what to do next 😭

I lost hope

My husband and I are on a big nasty and ugly fighting streak. We just came back from holidays and everything was fine. But then he pushed me to agree to go visit his family this summer and start making plans without considering everything I had shred before about how I feel staying over at his parents place place for 2 weeks and the whole jetlag and exhaustion. Plus how every tine we travel our toddlers routine goes out the door and I just feel overwhelmed.

Nevertheless I agreed cause it’s important to him. But then he kept pushing for more.

I lost it. In front of our son.

We fought for 2 days straight. I called hin the C word and he said I am a bad person. Then he said he doesn’t want to get pregnant again until I sort myself out.

We called an emergency session with our couples therapist.

Ir helped for a few hours.

Now we’re back at fighting spree.

Not even the safe word works anymore.

He lied to me about not buying more hot wheels. We’re now over 100. He has a problem.

And apparently he is taking pictures of my shit around the house to prove that I am also messy. When he knows I am the one who tidies all the time, does dishes, laundry and cooking.

I felt like hitting him. I am losing control. Our son is witnessing some of this. And I know we cannot let it happen. But it does and none of us puts a stop. We both just keep adding.

I just feel like running away and leaving with my son. But I can’t.

My husband is not from here and he has no one but us.

How often a week does your child have beige freezer food?

Chips, fish fingers, potato waffles that kinda thing… we’re slipping into a habit of him having them more & more as it’s the only thing he’ll eat and I feel like a failure of a parent 😭 we’ve tried so hard to give him a good varied diet but he’s become so fussy… feel like such a bad parent

Wondering something

Im wondering if youre a sahm and your husbands the only one working and bringing in money does he give you money or your own debit card?

My husband doesnt so were literally stuck at home wen hes working always. I also feel guilty spending his money.

Breakfast ideas

Any quick ish breakfast ideas please? One day my daughter will like toast, weetabix, homemade pancakes, french toast and the next she’ll refuse it. She always has fruit along side her breakfast but i just need other ideas please. Shes 16 months old thank you!x

Am I wrong to feel a way?

Asked my childs father if he wanted to spend the night with his son. The baby is 5.5 weeks and wanted him to get that time with him as well before he goes back to work next week. All I asked was if he could keep him on his night schedule because I’ve gotten him to sleep really good at night and this was his response.