My former best friend ditched me and im trying to understand why.
Im really just ranting here. Please be gentle with me. My best friend of 25 years , we were single , messy and childfree together and then she got pregnant at 18, got married and I was still a single loser and her forever sidekick. I was always always there helping her take care of her baby girl. And when her terrible no good husband cheated and left I was of course always there. Years later she got remarried to an amazing kind man and had another beautiful baby! I was still there babysitting so they could have date nights! I also got married to a long time friend and me and my husband baby sat for her all the time! We tried to get pregnant for years and years and even while we were trying ivf , we still baby sat at least once a month. Finally I had my first baby and I felt a complete shift from my friend. She never offered to throw a baby shower or anything like this first of all even though I threw TWO BABY SHOWERS, BACHELORETTES etc etc. Her and husband came to see us weeks after the baby was born and then there was a real real distance. I felt really weird like where are you.. I need you the most now. I dont know wtf im doing. I have much younger sister and brother so my mom is busy with them! Then when I had my second baby.. it was almost radio silence. She brought over a gift and that was it. She told us theyre planning to move to Colorado from where we live in Toronto for husbands work. Which is great im super happy for them but I just thought it was very weird about not being happy for me about my babies especially knowing I struggled with fertility etc. So she moved. And now she keeps flying back to Toronto all the time to see another friend of hers, who used to be just an acquaintance, this friend is single party girl, no husband or kids. Never calls or msgs me anymore. Is she upset that I had kids? I was still willing to babysit. I just needed to like figure out my own baby for a bit?? Like?? Wtf is the deal
