My former best friend ditched me and im trying to understand why.

Im really just ranting here. Please be gentle with me. My best friend of 25 years , we were single , messy and childfree together and then she got pregnant at 18, got married and I was still a single loser and her forever sidekick. I was always always there helping her take care of her baby girl. And when her terrible no good husband cheated and left I was of course always there. Years later she got remarried to an amazing kind man and had another beautiful baby! I was still there babysitting so they could have date nights! I also got married to a long time friend and me and my husband baby sat for her all the time! We tried to get pregnant for years and years and even while we were trying ivf , we still baby sat at least once a month. Finally I had my first baby and I felt a complete shift from my friend. She never offered to throw a baby shower or anything like this first of all even though I threw TWO BABY SHOWERS, BACHELORETTES etc etc. Her and husband came to see us weeks after the baby was born and then there was a real real distance. I felt really weird like where are you.. I need you the most now. I dont know wtf im doing. I have much younger sister and brother so my mom is busy with them! Then when I had my second baby.. it was almost radio silence. She brought over a gift and that was it. She told us theyre planning to move to Colorado from where we live in Toronto for husbands work. Which is great im super happy for them but I just thought it was very weird about not being happy for me about my babies especially knowing I struggled with fertility etc. So she moved. And now she keeps flying back to Toronto all the time to see another friend of hers, who used to be just an acquaintance, this friend is single party girl, no husband or kids. Never calls or msgs me anymore. Is she upset that I had kids? I was still willing to babysit. I just needed to like figure out my own baby for a bit?? Like?? Wtf is the deal

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hi incognito... ive had similar things over the years and it is heartbreaking every time... msg me if u ever wana rant.. i had similar experience few years back its like grieving x x x best wishes xx

So relatable. My sister and I are literally 9 months apart in age, so we are peers & we did everything together growing up bt she had, her 1st kid, my nephew at 22 yrs old! I made sure to be there for her the best way I knew how, Helped thru her get away from that abusive baby daddy. Bt when I had my son at 30 yrs old, she isn’t there for me & just doesn’t care at all. It really hurts bt I learned not to expect things from ppl. Don’t expect “you” in other ppl. I also think ppl our age who had kids young are just tired, maybe even traumatized 😅 from all these yrs of parenting at such a young age. So we expect them to “help” us when it’s our turn or just to relate or be there for us bt I think they are tired. I know that’s not an excuse bt I think that’s one of the reasons.

My sister is 36 and she has been parenting for practically her whole entire adult life. After 18, She only spent 4 yrs as a quote on quote adult and then thrown into parenthood by 22. If ur friend had her 1st at 18 yrs old, I can just assume that she is prolly just too tired to understand how special it is for u or to be there for u in the same capacity that u were. It seems like Motherhood no matter what age ur journey begins, women tend to loose friends. And long story I’m sorry ur loosing ur best friend. 🫶🏾 it happens to all of us

Seems like she used u... and is jealous now that youre settled in ur life too..

Im so sorry this is happening to you 🙏 I was in a very similar position, left with questions I didn’t get answers to.. I’m learning to let go, focusing on my family and true friendships.. live and let live ❤️

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