Father's day gifts

So ive just had a discussion with my partner about father's day gifts which had kind of ended negatively.

Our baby is only 3 months old so obviously too young to make/choose their own stuff to give him for father's day. I had some ideas of what to get him in behalf of our child but ive now been made to feel like its not good enough.

He basically sent me a link to some headphones he wants and said "ive sent u an idea of what to get me for father's day" . Now me typically Id get someone something like that for birthday or Christmas not father's/mothers day, for those occasions I would get something related to that event like a personalised keyring/cup/wallet/phone case etc that would have pictured of their child/ren. When I mentioned i was thinking cute personalised father's day things he didnt seem to thrilled and was like "what do i need a reminder that im a father with cute things when. I have our kid there thata a reminder everyday u know what dont get me anything"..... so now I feel like shit because it feels like my ideas wasnt good enough which has now made him not want anything. Am I in the wrong? Do I get him nothing? Do I get him what he wants or my original idea or do please both ideas do i get both?

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He sounds like a bit of a dick tbh. I'm of the same opinion as you, it's his first father's day, so he should receive something memorable to maybe keep. I got my partner a personalised jumper and a personalised pint. I know that he'll enjoy the thought behind them and the gifts, but will say that I shouldn't have worried myself getting him anything. But I do want to worry, because he's been massive support and doing the best he can. Headphones, laptops, and other gadgets (cuz he likes his gadgets) we normally talk about them and it's as you said birthday, Christmas etc. Maybe you shouldn't have asked him and just got him what you wanted in the first place.

You are not wrong. Father’s Day is more about small token gifts than big ticket items. Out of interest what did he get you for Mother’s Day?

I wouldn’t get him anything the ungrateful pig

Mothers and Father’s Day isn’t about extravagant items to me either.. unless it’s something you both agree on and is reciprocated both ways then it’s a no from me, it’s a small token gift something ‘from the kids’ headphones make 0 sense as a Father’s Day gift to me.
I’d love to know what he did for Mother’s Day?

Father’s Day definitely is more token gifts but I find anything personalised is just house clutter would hate a mug with worlds greatest mum on it or anything personal like that x

All I’ve got my partner so far is a Toy Story t-shirt from BoohooMAN which is from our daughter as she’s 2.5 and they are both Toy Story mad. I don’t know what to get him from our 4 month old son as he isn’t a coffee drinker, he hates key rings on his keys and he’s already to a wallet.

I’ll also be making a card from both of the kids with either a handprint or footprint as he loved his birthday cards from them x

Mothers and fathers are different mothers tend to like cute custom pieces men are usually more practical based. Get him what he wants lol at least yours will outright tell you I have no idea what to get my husband. Mine likes futbol (soccer)

Yea its ok for him not to want “cutesy” stuff. My husband is a bit like this. If he doesnt want it then id ask him for a suggestion within a certain price range because…. Sorry buddy u not getting expensive headphones when u got me a teddy bear and card. Tell him your suggestions or ask him to give u an amazon suggestion under 20dollars. Or give him a teddy that says Daddy🤭😉😶‍🌫️. He set the standard with his gift if u ask me. The keychain with her pic is fine. U could also look on groupon and do a jcpenny photo shoot session for like 25$.

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