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I just wanted to come on here real quick to show something I wrote. Since my son was born I had been struggling with maintaining a friendship with someone I considered my bestfriend. I wasn’t the one struggling though, she was. When my son was born I stopped hearing from her, even after during my pregnancy she swore she would be here for me and would be my sons “fav auntie”… Well he is almost 9 months old and the only time I have been asked to hangout is when she needed a pregnancy test and she knew I had extra. Me having a child suddenly made my bestfriend lose interest in the friendship. I’ve expressed to her so many times how I felt and i guess it just doesnt matter because to her I’m no longer friend material because i am a mom. So i wrote this as my final cry for help from her and she said absolutely nothing to it. That ultimately made me cut her off completely.

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I feel you! That hurts 🫂 the milestones in our lives are the moments of truth for the real friendships...
That hurts... They're not there for us as they promised...

I feel you ! 100 percent I feel like I lost so many friendships during and after pregnancy. Sometimes People change on you during that season for a reason maybe they just not meant to be there and deep down not really going to be much of help in your life . Once a Child comes in your life so does your purpose and destiny align to fit that babies needs and maybe Where God wants you is not in the same place

I love this. That was very well said Thank you🤍

I remember how lonely I was as a new sahm, with an alcoholic (now ex) husband and someone who was like my sister who was a mom herself became a stranger, then 2 of my closest friends switched up on me to the point of me having to cut them out from how cruel they’ were…and it was probably the worst time in my life (up to that point. It’s way fucking worse now) and suddenly after my divorce my 2 best friends of 7+ years just, dropped me. One has literally moved across the country to live with me after 7 years of talking about it literally was glued to FT 24/7, then was just gone. One of them got pregnant herself and I thought it would bring us closer I was super emotional over it and she completely iced me out to the point I felt I had to end the friendship. That was a few years ago. I just recently reconnected with her, but it’s not the same. I haven’t been able to keep someone in my life for even a year since. It’s crazy to me. I miss having a best friend. I miss having friends at all.

i’m so sorry you went through all that :( i truly dont understand how the closest people to us can be so cold during what is supposed to be the most vulnerable moments in a women’s life. There’s so much more to my story and my ex best friend, I wish I could say everything I felt to her but it would just hurt me more in the end if I didn’t get the response i’m hoping for. We’re both 20 almost 21 and were friends since 2018, she doesn’t have any kids and I understand we’re at two different phases in our lives but if she can show up for her party friends and random guys, she should be able to show up for her “bestfriend” she swore she would be there for and around and when i found out i was pregnant promised it wouldnt change our friendship.. It hurts the most to know that if I had chose to not have my son, our friendship would have never changed.

Ooof this hits deep and is so real. I experienced the same thing and it hurts every day. I know I will make more friends and feel connected again, but for right now it just hurts. Keep showing up authentically- your new best friend will find you ❤️

im sorry this happened to you /:

a friend texted me yesterday to tell me that she had to step away from our friendship. she has a lot going on in her life and doesn’t feel like she can show up for me the way she would like during this season of my life. i appreciated her honesty but it still hurt.

you’re in my prayers 🙏

I may not be from the same country but I am more than happy for you to message me whenever you want. Whether that's to vent or just a nice catch up 🥰

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So I’ve been trying out different nappies to find the best for baby girl. With my eldest daughter I used pampers and they were rubbish so I didn’t bother with them and switched to Aldi nappies and only used Aldi nappies with my son. Huggies are a no go for me.

So far number 3 (rascals) have been working the best for baby girl with number 4 in close second.

Which nappies if any of these have you found the best for your LOs?

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Help settle this not serious debate between my husband and me

This is for kids old enough to play in the bath.
Do you wash your kids first then fill up the bath so they can play?
OR
Do you fill up the bath, let them play then drain and wash?

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Feeling like utter crap

When will this end? I feel terrible. Overweight, biggest I've ever been in my life, unsexy, barely get a chance to shower most days, make up is non existent, hair is suffering. Clothes awful. Mood low majority of the time what I do is just a distraction for how awful I feel inside. I am deeply grateful for my children, but I just can't seem to get it together energy wise. My youngest is 5 months.

Breastfeeding troubles

My baby boy is a week old today! For the first two days, I exclusively breast fed but during night 3 we gave him formula because he was clearly distressed and something wasn’t working.
The health visitor then mentioned the next day that he’d lost too much weight and to top up with formula and he’s been so much more settled since and has gained more weight so it’s definitely helping.

I just can’t help but feeling a little bit hopeless. I’m happy he’s happy and he’s still going onto my breast but I feel like time on the boob is getting shorter and shorter each feed because I feel so guilty trying to force him to draw out what he can when he’s hungry and much isn’t coming out and I’m not getting much when I pump either BUT I can tell that I am getting more and more each day, but they’re still tiny amounts (not even an oz from both breasts combined). I don’t know if the issue is that I have small B cup breasts and quite large nipples.

I just wanted to see if anyone else is struggling with BF, has maybe come out the other end and BF has begun to work? I’m mostly coming to terms with he may just have to be a formula fed baby but it still saddens me regardless.

Help, am I in the wrong?

So tomorrow is due to be 26 degrees and my partner wants us to take our son to a park in Central London (over an hour away) probably around 2pm. I know 26 degrees isn't heatwave temperature but surely it doesn't make sense to head out in the afternoon to the park with a 1 year old rather than going earlier when it's not as hot?

Please tell me if I'm overreacting because I can be abit OTT with things like this, and protecting my son from feeling unwell and things like that, but I don't see how this makes sense lol

Also, bear in mind that my son is now on 1 nap for between 2 and 3 hours a day, usually around midday or just before

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