Just want to make it clear

I just wanted to make an announcement so I’ll just stay at home Mom‘s out there with husbands that think that you slaves and you have to clean and you have to cook and you have to do this for him for being a stay at home. Mom is because you don’t want someone else raising your child and you want to watch them grow you didn’t do it to be their slave. You didn’t agree to that. Look up how much it would cost them to have a nanny and a cleaner and a personal assistant. and a living cook it is not the same price as their annually income. Do we love our respect to our husbands and boyfriends that give us this opportunity to stay at home with our children. Yes we love them dearly but we are not their slaves. They need to grow up and clean after themselves. They can do chores they can take out the garbage they could mow the lawn. They can pick up after themselves. They could do all the other chores too for them. It is not a requirement it is because we care that we do them everybody have a blessed day.

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What to do

I really hate this about myself but when my toddler does things like throwing water out the bath, wriggling away when I'm trying to put his nappy on, repeating things over and over when I've said no, I get a sudden anger bubble up in me. I've never acted on the anger but I have to try my absolute best and I really wish it wasn't there. I don't even want him to sense that in me as we have such a loving relationship 😔
I'm being assessed for ADHD/autism and I'm not sure if this plays a part but I'd really love to find a way to stop these feelings in the moment.

Entertainment 4 month old

Hi mamas, what do you do to entertain your 4 month???

Wrong kind a break 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Does anyone else feel like everyone expects you to want a break from your kids? When in reality you want a break from all the other shit you have to do as a SAHM.. I don’t want a break from my kids, I want a break from the cooking, cleaning, laundry, food shopping, life admin and overall mental load 😭😭😭😭

We move house at the beginning of July, and my husband just suggested I go and visit his family for a change of scenery and a break.. AT THE END OF JUNE.
We have little to no help so a lot of the packing, culling through our stuff and the kids stuff will be left to me. And he wants me to take a break and go visit his family, without him or our son, but with our daughter who still breastfeeds.. and don’t get my wrong, this is all coming from a place of love of him wanting me to have a break but he’s not understanding the utter stress it’ll be for me to be away when we have so much to get sorted to move.
Not at all helped by how hot it’ll be to visit his family, and I struggle in the heat since having kids 😅😅 .. I love that he wants a break for me, but I just don’t think he’s considered the timings of it all 🫣🫣

Childcare with no family support - relationship at breaking point

How are people doing with having little or no family/friend support for short term childcare?
We've been together for years, our eldest is 5 and I can count on 1 hand how many times we've been able to go out for ourselves without the kids.
I already am never in the mood for "adult time" but I feel so distant from my partner, we come home, play with the kids, feed them, then put them to bed. After that he goes on the games console and I doom scroll in the kitchen or am doing school work.

I know we don't/can't find time for eachother. Not even to just pop out to the shops by ourselves.
I want us to be able to go out on a date, but with no family around unless we are stuck.

How does anyone else manage or find time to be together away from the kids?

Food catcher

Does anyone use one of those food catcher things that go around the high chair and is supposed to catch the food they throw overboard?
If so, which one do you use please?
I’ve seen a ‘catchy’ brand but it doesn’t look wide enough and my boy seems to have the throwing capabilities of a cricketer!
Basically I’m just reeeeeally tired of spending more time cleaning the floor and chair, than I do feeding him. 🫠

Screen time

This is for parents who allow screen times. I am a screen time parent and I feel guilty sometimes of how much I let them watch it. They have tablets for about 1 hr a day whilst I finish work 330-430 after school and then we have tv on constantly with either children’s programmes or adult programmes at night for us. How do working parents juggle this? If you wfh and have the kids what do you do? I don’t know what else I can do for that hour. I have no village whatsoever and no childcare husband works till 5