Childcare with no family support - relationship at breaking point
How are people doing with having little or no family/friend support for short term childcare?
We've been together for years, our eldest is 5 and I can count on 1 hand how many times we've been able to go out for ourselves without the kids.
I already am never in the mood for "adult time" but I feel so distant from my partner, we come home, play with the kids, feed them, then put them to bed. After that he goes on the games console and I doom scroll in the kitchen or am doing school work.
I know we don't/can't find time for eachother. Not even to just pop out to the shops by ourselves.
I want us to be able to go out on a date, but with no family around unless we are stuck.
How does anyone else manage or find time to be together away from the kids?
Wrong kind a break 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Does anyone else feel like everyone expects you to want a break from your kids? When in reality you want a break from all the other shit you have to do as a SAHM.. I don’t want a break from my kids, I want a break from the cooking, cleaning, laundry, food shopping, life admin and overall mental load 😭😭😭😭
We move house at the beginning of July, and my husband just suggested I go and visit his family for a change of scenery and a break.. AT THE END OF JUNE.
We have little to no help so a lot of the packing, culling through our stuff and the kids stuff will be left to me. And he wants me to take a break and go visit his family, without him or our son, but with our daughter who still breastfeeds.. and don’t get my wrong, this is all coming from a place of love of him wanting me to have a break but he’s not understanding the utter stress it’ll be for me to be away when we have so much to get sorted to move.
Not at all helped by how hot it’ll be to visit his family, and I struggle in the heat since having kids 😅😅 .. I love that he wants a break for me, but I just don’t think he’s considered the timings of it all 🫣🫣
What would you do another kid being mean to my kid🙄
I have known this friend for over a decade, but her 3-year-old daughter is constantly mean to my 1.5-year-old, and today during a playdate at her house, it finally got to be too much. The 3-year-old abandoned a backyard swing to play with a doll, but the second my daughter tried to take a turn, she ran back, yelled, and pushed her off. Her mom just brushed it off with a weak "don't push, that's not nice," but even after my daughter politely asked for a turn and got on, the 3-year-old came right back and started violently shaking the swing and clawing at her. This happened three separate times while her mom did absolutely nothing but give passive warnings. I finally spoke up and said we were leaving, and as we packed up, the 3-year-old actually asked if she could come with us, so I told her straight up, "No, because you're being mean and I'm not going to let you keep hurting her." I honestly don't think I'm going to bring my daughter over there anymore, and I don't feel crazy for it—yes, she's just a kid, but I'm not going to sit there and watch my toddler get bullied and scratched while her parents get walked all over. I want to save my 10-year friendship with the mom, but my daughter's safety comes first, and I definitely don't want her picking up on that kind of behavior.😩🤦🏾♀️
