What would you do another kid being mean to my kid🙄

I have known this friend for over a decade, but her 3-year-old daughter is constantly mean to my 1.5-year-old, and today during a playdate at her house, it finally got to be too much. The 3-year-old abandoned a backyard swing to play with a doll, but the second my daughter tried to take a turn, she ran back, yelled, and pushed her off. Her mom just brushed it off with a weak "don't push, that's not nice," but even after my daughter politely asked for a turn and got on, the 3-year-old came right back and started violently shaking the swing and clawing at her. This happened three separate times while her mom did absolutely nothing but give passive warnings. I finally spoke up and said we were leaving, and as we packed up, the 3-year-old actually asked if she could come with us, so I told her straight up, "No, because you're being mean and I'm not going to let you keep hurting her." I honestly don't think I'm going to bring my daughter over there anymore, and I don't feel crazy for it—yes, she's just a kid, but I'm not going to sit there and watch my toddler get bullied and scratched while her parents get walked all over. I want to save my 10-year friendship with the mom, but my daughter's safety comes first, and I definitely don't want her picking up on that kind of behavior.😩🤦🏾‍♀️

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U did the right, and no lie that other mom should have done better in teaching her child how to treat a younger child. Have had a serious talk with her mom, cause is her responsibility to teach her child. The mom should be apologizing to u for her child behavior.

You've been friends for 10 years but you're not comfortable with correcting the 3 year old or addressing your concerns with your friend? It's all very passive aggressive.
Also to call a 3 year old is mean is just a little ignorant. There's a reason behind the behavior and I'm assuming her mom's lack of correction in addition to your passive attitude just kind of allowed it to keep going on until you got uncomfortable enough to leave. Solves nothing tho and this won't be the last time this happens

Personally I wouldn't have let go on for as long. And no offense, you don't owe your friend or her kid anything. Its not your fault the mom is a lazy parent. And you used language a 3 yr old would understand. I probably would have lied and said no we have things to do but that's me. That behavior is absolutely not ok and if mom isn't going to do anything about it, then absolutely protect your kid. And if your friend can't see that she is the problem, maybe you don't need her in your life.

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