I really hate this about myself but when my toddler does things like throwing water out the bath, wriggling away when I'm trying to put his nappy on, repeating things over and over when I've said no, I get a sudden anger bubble up in me. I've never acted on the anger but I have to try my absolute best and I really wish it wasn't there. I don't even want him to sense that in me as we have such a loving relationship 😔
I'm being assessed for ADHD/autism and I'm not sure if this plays a part but I'd really love to find a way to stop these feelings in the moment.
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Sounds like you're just getting to the shock of how such a little person can get under your skin so good when you're so calm and composed and love them so much 😂

I think it’s normal I’m going through the same after a while I get overstimulated.

Almost everyone with autism also has anxiety. Women are under diagnosed with autism and it's actually common to finally get your dx after becoming a mum
Anyway the anger is usually related to anxiety. Especially since you mentioned it being worse if you're running late for something. Talk to your doctor.

I’m being assessed for adhd and autism too, and have this exact thing sometimes. It’s not personal towards bubba of course, it’s just feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated. And under time pressure or stress you’ll naturally feel it more. 5 mins away, or taking a deep breath outside of the room can help. Baby will be ok, but you need to regulate yourself however best for you to be the best for them. X

I want to throw my toddler out the window half the time ( never would) i love her so much but my god she pushes me! Take my comment lighthearted I wouldn't actually throw her out the window, but dont stop me getting peeved after a million times of repeating myseld

I started feeling some of this after having my second, I love my toddler to death but he can definitely be difficult sometimes while I’m feeding his brother or pumping so I totally get it.

It's normal. I went to work part time when my oldest was 10 months old. Mostly because I literally couldn't keep entertaining her every day. The whole sahm life.. was not for me. Now if finances, if we didn't benefit from me working that's another story. But bc of our incomes if I went back to work we could do much more than just take walks, park etc. Free things. I could actually get crafts etc. & I worked 25 hours a week 4 days a week lol.
My 2nd born? I felt that post partum anger/ anxiety. It didn't hit me until 3mo pp but when it hit it was being overestimated by our oldest & youngest lol. 9 mo pp I'm finally back to me! I definitely benefit from working lol. Now I work 30 hours a week 4 days a week & that's my sweet spot. That's my perfect time away:home to spend time with my kids ratio 🤣