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I really hate this about myself but when my toddler does things like throwing water out the bath, wriggling away when I'm trying to put his nappy on, repeating things over and over when I've said no, I get a sudden anger bubble up in me. I've never acted on the anger but I have to try my absolute best and I really wish it wasn't there. I don't even want him to sense that in me as we have such a loving relationship 😔
I'm being assessed for ADHD/autism and I'm not sure if this plays a part but I'd really love to find a way to stop these feelings in the moment.

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Sounds like you're just getting to the shock of how such a little person can get under your skin so good when you're so calm and composed and love them so much 😂

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I think it’s normal I’m going through the same after a while I get overstimulated.

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Almost everyone with autism also has anxiety. Women are under diagnosed with autism and it's actually common to finally get your dx after becoming a mum

Anyway the anger is usually related to anxiety. Especially since you mentioned it being worse if you're running late for something. Talk to your doctor.

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I’m being assessed for adhd and autism too, and have this exact thing sometimes. It’s not personal towards bubba of course, it’s just feeling overwhelmed and overstimulated. And under time pressure or stress you’ll naturally feel it more. 5 mins away, or taking a deep breath outside of the room can help. Baby will be ok, but you need to regulate yourself however best for you to be the best for them. X

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I want to throw my toddler out the window half the time ( never would) i love her so much but my god she pushes me! Take my comment lighthearted I wouldn't actually throw her out the window, but dont stop me getting peeved after a million times of repeating myseld

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I started feeling some of this after having my second, I love my toddler to death but he can definitely be difficult sometimes while I’m feeding his brother or pumping so I totally get it.

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It's normal. I went to work part time when my oldest was 10 months old. Mostly because I literally couldn't keep entertaining her every day. The whole sahm life.. was not for me. Now if finances, if we didn't benefit from me working that's another story. But bc of our incomes if I went back to work we could do much more than just take walks, park etc. Free things. I could actually get crafts etc. & I worked 25 hours a week 4 days a week lol.

My 2nd born? I felt that post partum anger/ anxiety. It didn't hit me until 3mo pp but when it hit it was being overestimated by our oldest & youngest lol. 9 mo pp I'm finally back to me! I definitely benefit from working lol. Now I work 30 hours a week 4 days a week & that's my sweet spot. That's my perfect time away:home to spend time with my kids ratio 🤣

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What to do

I really hate this about myself but when my toddler does things like throwing water out the bath, wriggling away when I'm trying to put his nappy on, repeating things over and over when I've said no, I get a sudden anger bubble up in me. I've never acted on the anger but I have to try my absolute best and I really wish it wasn't there. I don't even want him to sense that in me as we have such a loving relationship 😔
I'm being assessed for ADHD/autism and I'm not sure if this plays a part but I'd really love to find a way to stop these feelings in the moment.

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I truly hate what bio mom did to the baby I have. I adopted him months ago and it hurts me because he was born a drug baby so he does have delays and that shouldn’t be on him. He’s had a couple surgeries already and he’s going to have a couple more soon and it breaks my heart everyday knowing that she did him so dirty and continued after he was born until CPS took him away😩. But I know deep down having him he’s going to have the greatest life of all! Every morning when he wakes up he’s so happy to see me and that fills my heart with joy. Even thou he has delays he’s doing so much better in my care, he’s starting to crawl even thou he’s over a year old now. He’s 17 months to be exact. But he’s doing great and that’s all that matters. Right? Sometimes I feel like I could be doing more for him but what else could I possibly do?

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Is anyone else struggling with their identity? I have a toddler and a 2 month old and I’m a sahm. I realized today that I don’t do anything except for mom. I used to bake and go to the gym and be a person but I can’t even remember the last time I baked or even stepped foot in a gym. I love my kids but I feel like I’m not me anymore. My husband is also military so with him being gone and no “village” it just seems impossible to do anything for me.

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Does anyone use one of those food catcher things that go around the high chair and is supposed to catch the food they throw overboard?
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Basically I’m just reeeeeally tired of spending more time cleaning the floor and chair, than I do feeding him. 🫠

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Are you comfortable hiring a babysitter? I don’t have any family around and my husband is comfortable letting his family watch our child but I’m not comfortable with it at all because there have been so many issues with them treating me weird in the past 12 years that I don’t want to rely on them at all. he’s been so against a babysitter because he says he doesn’t want someone randomly watching our toddler and I get that but iv expressed to him that I’m not comfortable asking my in-laws to watch them as well but he forcing it on me so iv had to leave my child with his mom to go to ultrasound appointments. Now iv had to cancel my appointment tomorrow because he assumed his mom could watch her but she has other plans because he asked last minute and it makes me rethink just hiring a babysitter because iv never wanted to leave my child with her to begin with but it was free childcare. He’s also suggested leaving the child with his sister and I said absolutely not doing that, for 1)me and the sister have had so many issues in the past and 2) she would never ask us to watch her child so why would I ask her to watch mine? and he was like well that’s her problem if she wouldn’t ask us for help but if she wants to watch ours he doesn’t have a problem with that. His family and I are just starting to rebuild a relationship after I want no contact with them for a year and he’s just so open for them to watch our child because he wants us all to get along and have a relationship. I feel like after 12 years if things were ment to be different they would be and they genuinely apologized to me and cried and asked for forgiveness but I feel like I’ll always have my guard up.. idk maybe I’m the issue atp but I’ll never be comfortable with certain things.

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