Sad and frustrated!
I truly hate what bio mom did to the baby I have. I adopted him months ago and it hurts me because he was born a drug baby so he does have delays and that shouldn’t be on him. He’s had a couple surgeries already and he’s going to have a couple more soon and it breaks my heart everyday knowing that she did him so dirty and continued after he was born until CPS took him away😩. But I know deep down having him he’s going to have the greatest life of all! Every morning when he wakes up he’s so happy to see me and that fills my heart with joy. Even thou he has delays he’s doing so much better in my care, he’s starting to crawl even thou he’s over a year old now. He’s 17 months to be exact. But he’s doing great and that’s all that matters. Right? Sometimes I feel like I could be doing more for him but what else could I possibly do?
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He’s soooo blessed to have you 🥰
One of my friends growing up had a little brother who was adopted, with a very similar background to yours. Yes he had delays and some long term impact, but in a home where he was loved and supported, he made huge leaps, worked through everything, and was the happiest little boy. I’m so happy yours has someone like you.
This is easy to say from the sidelines, but try to start to see bio mom as a victim rather than a target for anger. Drug addiction is the cruellest thing; it robs people of rationality and reason and everything they were. There is no more point being angry at her than at someone with other profound health issues. Ultimately she has lost the greatest thing- raising that little human. You have that privilege now, and some day he might have questions, and himself be angry, and you’ll be the one to talk him through it.
Best of luck with everything.
Bless you and your massive heart.
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