Do you constantly feel shattered?

I’m almost 6 mo PP.
in a very complicated/ turbulent relationship with the father of my child.
I can’t shake the feeling of constantly falling apart. Losing my self, my identity and my mind.


I want to go into further detail but I don’t want to traumatize anyone.

Can anyone relate to this feeling ?

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I had a lonely pregnancy and my relationship with my partner wasn’t amazing. That definitely influenced my mood and energy.
I was to myself and didn’t chat with anyone. Even PP.
i didnt have this account either. I spoke to everyone about anything but this.
I would suggest to listen to podcasts or youtube videos about positive thoughts and personal development.
Its not easy but having a a negative relationship will take the best out of you and you need positivity in any way possible. Do it for yourself because you need sanity.

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I can relate a little but since I’ve stopped interacting with him my life has been much more peaceful. Sometimes you have to just give up on people and believe what they’re showing you.

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I feel like as moms, we completely lose who we are while theyre out doing whatever. If you work on finding yourself again and putting alllllll of that effort into yourself instead of him, you will eventually get yourself back! Small steps at a time. One day at a time! You can message me if you want to talk more! Ik it's hard mamas but you only have you at the end of the day. Take care of yourself!

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Yes it happens, especially when you realize that pregnancy has completely changed you as a person, meanwhile your partner hasn’t adjusted, and isn’t growing to become the man this new version of you needs, and then that brings to the realization of “Has he always been like this, how did I ever think he would adapt with me.” It’s so simple, but they make it so difficult, and not to forget how emotional they start getting out of nowhere, and you just wonder where is all this coming from.

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