Hi everyone. I’m really struggling. My baby is 8 weeks old today but since about the 2nd/3rd week I’ve felt so low, I think I have PPD and I’m going to start medication. But I can’t see it helping because the feelings I have are severe regret, I’d do anything to turn back time and not have a baby, all I want is mine and my partners life back, I hate the sacrifices all day long I can’t bear it. I really regret having a baby and I’m so upset because I think surely this feeling will never get better 😢
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Hey. Having a baby is life changing and how you feel is valid. I can remember mourning the life I had previously after having my first and it is a feeling a lot of new mums go through. Please make contact with your HV if you say you are feeling low and struggling, mine was so good with me and really helped. Please speak to your partner/family and take up any offer of support. Things do get better I promise x

Hey lovely, know that what you’re feeling is very normal even though it’s hard to navigate! What you think are sacrifices right now won’t feel like they are in months to come and you’ll realise it’s totally worth it. I’m also struggling with mourning what life was like before baby but there will come a time where you don’t feel like this. I feel like no one prepares you for becoming a mum but like Holli said definitely speak to your HV and be open about how you’re feeling as they want to help. Have you got a support network at all? If not you always have people on this app who are going through the same feelings. Our hormones are so up and down at the moment and it won’t be like this forever. If you need someone to talk to please message someone, feel free to message me. I’ve found it a lot easier connecting with mums who can relate to everything you are experiencing! You’re doing an amazing job, being a mum is the hardest thing and it will get better! You’ve got this 🖤

I’d love to chat with you ❤️

I’m sorry you’re having such a rough time!
In regard to the medication, you’re probably going to be surprised at how well it actually works. It can take 2 weeks to kick in, so be prepared for that, but it honestly saved my life. I really hope they’ll work for you.
Remember, you have a support network here of mums you’ve never met, but who are all rooting for you 🫶