Affair
My partner of 9 years and father to my two young children (1 and 3 years) told me yesterday that he had been having an affair with a younger woman from work. He told me he had been going to her flat after work, before work or when he’s been saying he’s at the gym. He told me it had been going on a few months and they had sex a few times. I spoke to the female and she said it had been going on since November, they had developed feelings - apparently he said he never felt a love like it and had told her we weren’t together and living together but civil for our children. This isn’t true. We were very much a couple - we maybe had drifted slightly since welcoming our second child but we were still intimate, shared a bed etc etc. And i obviously felt very much in a relationship with him. he has said he ended it but she kept threatening to get him in trouble at work and he was stuck. He told me he hadn’t seen her this week but she said he was at hers two days ago and they had sex. What the hell should I do. We’ve build a life together and own our own house. I’ve left the house and gone to stay with my mum for a few days.
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Damn personally I would let hell loose, but u do what u think is right for u and ur family. This is a huge betrayal and seems to me he had to tell u cus she’s a loose canon with the threats. Hes terrible u had his second child a year ago, i know it seems hard but if u allow this hes going to do worse. If u stay u will never really forgive him and u will resent him but if u leave and go thru the motions u will get thru this. I’m sorry thats my opinion but if u want to stay thats totally up to u
Sending hugs and prayers to u, so sorry u have to go thru this especially with two young babies
Baby I’m gonna hold your hand when I say this, forgiving that man is not an option because if you do he’ll continue to cheat and eventually do much worse. The big sign is in your face get your ducks in a row and do what you know you need to do and leave. You deserve better than that and every part of you knows it, please don’t get fooled into believing or thinking he told out of good will because I’m pretty that girl wanted to start getting serious and he saw the hole he dug and decided to come clean.
If it were me - make a plan and leave. Its been months and he shows no signs of stopping. His words are fcking empty, his actions are showing how he really feels. No respect no loyalty. Mourn the loss of your relationship, grieve the future you thought u were gonna have and move on. He will never respect you the way you deserve. The fact u even have to talk to the side hoe is so fucking awful for you. Im so sorry you have to go through this.
I know that’s hard but I would leave him that’s so wrong he isn’t putting his kids and wife first idk if i would ever forgive my husband don’t think I would we also have two babies but we’ve been together more than 10 yrs. I am also praying for you as I pump rn 🙏🥺🥺🥺🤧 I think if u leave him and decide months or yrs later you want it to work again it’s also understandable but I think for sure you need a break to think what’s best for you!!!
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