Any one changed their mind about birth options?

On paper my pregnancy looks high risk but these are the individual circumstances:
- Inflammatory bowel disease - well controlled no meds no flare since first trimester
- Iron was low, had infusion now back to normal levels and being maintained at last blood test
- Have Gestational Diabetes, few high morning readings, refused Metformin due to possible bowel disease flare trigger so put on nightly low dose insulin (forgot to take insulin for a number of nights - no spikes).
- Had a additional growth scan between 4 weekly appointments after 13 days due to triage visit for reduced movement. Was an unusually busy stressful day and I couldn't remember if I had felt movements. All was fine (saw a few Braxton hicks on ctg - baby manage them well). Baby moved on this scan from 88th centile on individualised growth chart to 93rd centile. Sonographers commented baby's limbs were akwardly placed to get measurements. Baby is only 60th centile on a generic growth chart.
- Had another routine growth scan 2 weeks later baby back (just under her line) but the plot comes up red as a reduction in growth.
- Preferred plan was to birth naturally, go to full term (40+6 agreed) without intervention and hopefully use MLU.
- Decided would accept consultant led birth as continuous monitoring available and happy to have it if needed.
- Started insulin and suggestion for 39+4 induction made. Agreed and said that will get cervix checked if favourable and method of induction is acceptable will accept otherwise will elect C-section.
- Based on growth scan date has been moved to 39 weeks on the dot for induction.
- Going weekly for scans - this week to check cord blood flow and fluid (always been good).Week after growth scan.
- C-section is being discouraged as second baby and first was natural birth, also measured big in scans but was 25th centile.
- Movements have been great last few weeks. I feel happy and healthy otherwise. Baby is in optimum position and moving down into pelvis.

Based on all of this I'm thinking to refuse induction at all and let myself get to at least 39+4 or even push for them to leave me alone until 40 weeks. Anyone changed their mind later and refused? When I asked initially to be on MLU they booked me a call with the senior leadership team as I was making a choice out of hospital policy. Would they do similar if I say no to induction at next appointment? Also does anyone know if I can request a diabetes midwife in my consultant appointment because the last consultant was awful and she lacked people skills.

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Trauma vent ahead

Honestly just need to vent..
I had my second girl almost 2 months ago via emergency c-section. Now it wasn’t life or death emergency but emergency in my situation. I chose to be induced at 39w2d, the epidural failed and I was only at 6cm. I was in immense pain, sobbing with every contraction. I honestly think she was stuck in my pelvis. I had a choice of either redoing the epidural, laboring to dilate more for 10-12 hours or have the surgery. Doctors were also worried about baby’s HR. I chose the surgery. It wasn’t ideal. All I can think of is staring at the ceiling tiles, waiting for my husband to be at my head, being extremely nauseous and feeling all the tugging and pulling. Now to today, I love watching medical dramas, but I just get and feel so triggered watching them now. It takes me back to the surgery and I can’t escape it. I hate it and idk what to do 😩😭
Ok vent over, thanks for reading if you did 🫶🏻

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I’m just scared from both an emotional and physical point of view that it’s a disaster waiting to happen.
Has anyone done it?!

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So I have some questions on like belly , swelling

So my feet are still really swollen is this normal? What’s everyone’s experiences when did it go down?

My belly this is probably gonna sound stupid but I just want to know. So I still look like I have a baby in there 😅 and I wondered what other mommas did to help the belly back to normal. Obvs I can’t go back to the gym yet so wondered what I could do in the meantime that’s safe whilst healing ?❤️‍🩹

Has anyone had this before?
Had my 38 week midwife app yesterday, and they are sending me for a growth scan next week because I’ve had an exessive growth in 2 weeks gone from being steady all pregnancy around the 10th percentile,

To straight near the 90th percentile in just 2 weeks! Anyone else had this?

Help!

I had my baby 26/02/26 and I’m still bleeding - it hasn’t stopped at all - GP are aware - I had a planned c-section due to problems in my pregnancy - they’ve requested for me to have a scan and they’ve told me I need to have a cervical smear done - I’m just wondering if anyone has gone through this and may have an idea what it could be?
TIA

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