How do you find your Birthdays since being a new Mums

Turned 40 last month and haven’t celebrated my birthday for the last three yrs since LO been here. It was fine the first yr as was in early baby hood, last yr when was my birthday (so prob about similar age your little one is now) felt rlly low on it. And this yr I couldn’t have cared less tbh.

I know next yr I’ll be able to either meet up with new mum friends (as like you my old friends pre baby are in different towns now and our lives are very different. Don’t have much any family now left either). But as they get older I know some people have said you make more long lasting mum friends in similar boat when little ones start pre school etc and all the birthday parties and things come. So I feel similar to you. Kind of inbetween life stages in life where outgrown or have not much left in common with old friends but eagerly waiting to make the new era of friends once get some more free time from LO when we move to our new place (it’s a new area also) and connect to other mums

But also when they’re a bit older they get more fun in the sense they’re fully interactive verbal and can celebrate with little one. So I plan to have a nice day / weekend away planned / or mini trip planned with my little one next yr on my birthday and rlly enjoy celebrating with her. As she only rlly herself understands the whole happy birthday thing now she’s 26 months. So her birthday early next yr will be super fun. And my birthday next spring will be also I feel.
And then like I said, you will make a new circle of mum friends when they start pre school and it’s birthday parties to take them to and getting to know other mums at pick up or even off’f places like this app.

Totally get you on the feeling no one seems to care to celebrate. People sent me messages. It’s not like the old days. Communication and connection and making an effort these days to people is all over the phone. It’s pretty rubbish when it matters at times like this as a new mum, to still feel you matter.

My birthday is Christmas Eve so it’s always hit or miss anyway, some friends would be with their family already so weren’t around etc but now i basically have half a birthday🤣 the second half of the day is spent getting ready for Christmas Day, setting everything up in the evening, making it exciting for the kids etc.

I always find birthdays to be really emotional tbh, I don’t really know why. Maybe because it feels like there’s a big expectation for it to be great, I’ve cried on my birthday for as long as I can remember!😅

I haven’t really celebrated my birthday going out or partying in about 10 years. I usually worked on my birthday too. I get some cards from family and my husband always makes sure I get a present from him and the kids, but I’m really not a big birthday person.

I think big birthdays were a thing when we were younger. Everyone was free to go out to celebrate, but after 30 everybody moved away, had families, changed priorities and just got busy. Friendships change, our lives change and we don’t all have £100 for big nights out for everyone’s birthday anymore.

I think it’s just a part of growing up, we change.

I’ve actually enjoyed my last two birthdays more because I’ve had my girls. I don’t know why but it’s felt more special. I don’t need anyone else but being a solo mum I don’t expect anything. I always make a big thing with birthdays so I hung my own banner this year because they know birthdays a bit more and got myself a cake which we had after dinner.

Some people might think that’s sad I’m buying for myself but I know one day they’ll be singing happy birthday to me and it will mean so much.