Hi Mums friends

Hi, my name is Lilly, and I’m 21. Making friends has always felt really hard for me, and I’m hoping to change that. I’m currently trying to conceive and would love to connect with other mums whether you’re a mum to be like me or already a mum.

I don’t have the nicest family, so I’m really looking to create my own little circle of love and support. I live in NZ, but I’m more than happy with long distance friendships, including with people in Australia
it’s only a short flight away!

All I’m looking for is honest, genuine communication and someone who doesn’t want to waste time. I’ve had enough of that in my life already. I just want to chat, share, and keep the conversation going, building a real, lasting friendship. If that sounds like you, I’d love to hear from you!

in our community

Birth plan

I know I’m only 12 weeks right now and I have a very long time until I give birth but if I don’t start working on my labor and delivery plan I probably will never do it 🤣
What is everything I need to include on it. This is my first baby and I don’t want to miss anything

Yes I do know that things can change from now until I give birth but I can always edit it later

If you work part-time, or if you did, and your partner earns more per month, how would you arrange finances?

I want to do the first option with my partner so that it's as fair and equal as possible but we're currently doing the second option where he covers the main bills and big food shops, and I just live off my own part-time earnings.

Affair

My partner of 9 years and father to my two young children (1 and 3 years) told me yesterday that he had been having an affair with a younger woman from work. He told me he had been going to her flat after work, before work or when he’s been saying he’s at the gym. He told me it had been going on a few months and they had sex a few times. I spoke to the female and she said it had been going on since November, they had developed feelings - apparently he said he never felt a love like it and had told her we weren’t together and living together but civil for our children. This isn’t true. We were very much a couple - we maybe had drifted slightly since welcoming our second child but we were still intimate, shared a bed etc etc. And i obviously felt very much in a relationship with him. he has said he ended it but she kept threatening to get him in trouble at work and he was stuck. He told me he hadn’t seen her this week but she said he was at hers two days ago and they had sex. What the hell should I do. We’ve build a life together and own our own house. I’ve left the house and gone to stay with my mum for a few days.

Is it just me?

Is it just me or has anyone else found that friends you used to be so close with have just disappeared since you have become a mum?
Currently grieving an 18 year friendship, hadn't seen her since I was 17weeks pregnant and then she just disappeared out of nowhere, I tried messaging her asking why she has ghosted me the other day and she finally replied (my son is 5 months old now for reference) basically saying she just doesn't think our friendship aligns anymore and that it was going to be her final message to me. Shes blocked me too. She didn't even ask about my son, nothing.. I've never done anything wrong for her to do this.

Mil pushes and pushes for what she wants till she gets her way

I’m so annoyed by her right now I don’t have anything nice to say to her so I’m just trying to get it out somewhere!!! And I’m tired of my husband not stepping up and helping me push back🙄

Vitamin d

Anyone started baby on vitamin D if so what brand? Thanks