Over reacting?
So we were at my partners mums yesterday with our 2.5 year old and I am 38 weeks pregnant with our second. My partner and I struggled to come to terms with the second pregnancy and have had very in depth discussions about how we both definitely do not want any more children, we want to be able to maintain our lifestyle and feel that two is more than enough for us. I had a traumatic birth with my first (hopefully I won’t this time) and my partner is adamant he wants to get the snip. For context he is 24 and I am 30, so there is a gap but we’ve never really seen this as an issue. Obviously I know that is young for that procedure; but this isn’t something I’ve pushed him into or made him want to do, he keeps telling me he wants to. He mentioned it at his mums yesterday and she blew up, and started saying “you go on the coil, MY son isn’t having that done and if he is, I won’t talk to him ever again and you should be talking him out of it” and then she said “you might not even be with HER in a few years, you might meet someone else and they might want kids” so I said, oh that’s nice, and his sister said “true though” and while I get the concept, I felt so hurt and uncomfortable, I’m literally about to have his second child, obviously already feeling vulnerable and then comments like that. We then went to the park with his sister and our children and I told my partner I felt hurt by the comments; his sister said aggressively “what you saying” so I said I just didn’t like that comment” so she stormed off saying come and say it to my mums face, to which I said I haven’t said anything negative, and I’m not going to act in such a way infront of my son, so we continued to the park. Anyway, I don’t know if it’s hormones but I thought I’d feel better after I woke up and I don’t, I feel emotionally numb and can’t get the comment out of my head. It’s made me feel like some kind of temporary fixture, when I’d never want that to be the case.
Also, I just want to add that there are people in the world who know they never ever want kids and that’s their choice, you wouldn’t follow them around telling them they’re wrong would you? Surly we should be building a life based on how we feel as a couple and not what could or couldn’t happen or what would be the point in anything?
Am I overreacting?
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