Cheated on but stayed

Has anyone been cheated whilst creating and growing a family?

If yes, how did you manage after the betrayal.

I have been cheated on when I was pregnant with my first found out when I was already pregnant with my second.

No judgement as to where there are any signs beforehand, honestly looking deeper probably but also no ... He was leading two lives!

He is trying now to make amends, it's been a year since I found out our second son has been born.

Yet some days I still have resentment and now it's more of this was meant to be the best season of my life being a mother, and being present to my young boys but yet some days my mind wonders

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If u have ever been cheated on, please don’t make the mistake of staying with the cheater. Please take ur dignity, self esteem and self respect & leave that man & end that toxic relationship. If ur staying, please ask urself why ur willing to forgive or put up with someone who was disloyal cuz u deserve better. U deserve some1 who is commited to u and won’t hurt u. U deserve peace, u deserve respect. Please don’t make the mistake of staying with some1 who cheated on u. It’s not worth it. They aren’t worth it. Choose urself, be selfish abt ur own self preservation cuz the partner that u chose clearly doesn’t value or care abt u. If u stay with a cheater, u will only be creating a pattern & ultimately showing him that ur willingly to forgive or put up with anything. Leave that man

Our situation may be a little different, or eldest was 2.5 when my husband cheated on me. I'm happy to chat if you want to x

I stayed only because of my oldest who I was pregnant with, I shouldn’t have especially since he gave me chlamydia (thankfully you can get rid of it) while pregnant, the only good thing that came out of it is I have my youngest now.

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Looking for advice on how to approach this situation

Me and my sons dad aren’t together but we get on quite well.

He is very much “boys will be boys” have to raise them to be strong and not weak etc

He watches unsuitable tv programmes (zombies, gory, fighting, sex scenes etc) and has the tv on in the background most of the time. If I say it’s not suitable he doesn’t wanna hear it, says the kids have to learn to be strong. Easy to say but he’s not there to deal with any consequences of his influence

Our son is now 6 months and I don’t have a tv at home, so when he does see tv it’s likely at his dad’s or with family.

I don’t really want the only tv he sees to be inappropriate but I’m not sure how I can approach this and actually be heard. It will probably end up in me not going to his dad’s house.

Should I bother speaking up or just not put our son in that environment?

I am struggling to accept life in colorado

Ive been here for 8 years. Have 3 beautiful children an amazing husband. We bought our house a few years ago. However, this place is not for me and I am struggling to believe that I will be here for the rest of my life. The dryness and altitude are killing me. I grew up in Florida and I just visited recently and I realized how much I missed that place. I remembered my old funny laid-back self. I came back full of life joking at everything. Gosh how did I become so dry here. Anyways idk if its just venting or what... but coloradans are definitely not my people. 8 years here made in total 5 friend 3 moved to another state, one is leaving next year and one stopped talking to me because God knows why. For now i have to stay here for my husbands job. But I am struggling y'all.

When did you know that your marriage was over?

My husband and l have been together for about 9 years married 2 years. And l feel nothing towards him anymore. I don't feel love,comfort,warmth, or even loneliness. I am like ah your home cool, oh you left for work okay. Like I just dont seem to care that he's here for the weekend or gone at work. We have two kids 4 and 6. And l don't want them growing up in different homes. But l also don't like living here anymore. I am a SAHM and have no income which scares me but l also am tired of him taking care of us. I want to go get a job but it never lasts when its just me at home with two kids. Like l dont know how you single moms do it? Anyway we had a insadent 2 weeks ago and l feel more disconnected then ever. He wants to try again and keep us together but I don't. I don't want this anymore. But the kids do. Idk when did you feel it was done?

Just need to vent…

I’m really struggling with my marriage. For a while now i’ve been so unhappy. I feel unappreciated and unloved. My husband barely does anything nice for me, he doesn’t show any affection or appreciation towards me. I’ve told him how I felt multiple times but nothing changes. He constantly is rude and has an attitude and it just makes me so angry. We’ve been together since we were 17, we are now 25 so I really want to make this work but it’s clear that he’s not gonna change and won’t put in the effort. I really don’t want my son to grow up with his parents separated but idk what to do at this point. I’m so unhappy and all he does is make me upset.

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Anyone else’s baby really love yogurt? Little man will be 5 months on the 7th and he goes crazy for it. Drained a whole pouch and what was left of big brother’s and was still mad when it was all gone 😂

Am I the asshole?!?!

Conversation between me and my sister in law after I sent out a group text that we won’t be in our phones when I am giving birth and in labor. We are doing a home birth. (Post pics in comments. )