Am I the asshole?!?!

Conversation between me and my sister in law after I sent out a group text that we won’t be in our phones when I am giving birth and in labor. We are doing a home birth. (Post pics in comments. )

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No you are not, the entitlement is crazy I think you were pretty straight forward and respectful, idk how the person can say “I don’t want to cause drama” then subtly proceeds to cause drama 😂 because you want to announce to everyone at the same time.

Oof I LOVE the way you communicated in that conversation. No notes. 10/10. You’re not the asshole. Kudos to you for being so poised in this conversation because I would’ve went off or just ignored her

The audacity and entitlement of your SIL. 😑 I think you handled the situation really well, and I especially loved that last message you sent. Never be afraid to set boundaries to protect your peace and the family you're building. It took me a long time to learn this myself, but I eventually realized that if I kept trying to please everyone else instead of doing what was best for me and my family, I'd end up unhappy. The truth is, only you truly know what's happening in your life and the reasons behind the decisions you make. When boundaries aren't respected, it can start affecting not only you, but also your relationship with your partner and your children. So do what's best for you and your immediate family. Set whatever boundaries you need without feeling guilty. Family is important, and of course you love them. But at the end of the day, your priority is the people you share your home and daily life with.

You shouldn't have to sacrifice your own well-being, your relationship, or your kids for relatives who aren't living your reality, carrying your struggles, or dealing with the consequences of the choices you make. They're living their own lives, and you have every right to do what's best for yours.

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Terrible 3’s???

My 3 year old has started peeing in some really weird places……. First it was the front porch he pulled his pants down and peed all over the steps Then it was a metro bus… literally pulled his pants down and peed on the bus ( yes I tried to stop him then he just started peeing on meee ) then I caught him in his room peeing in a BOTTLE !! Then last night he came outside while I was sitting out back and just pulled his pants down and peed😐…. ( mindful there’s a bathroom right by the door !) i keep sending him to bed early and like yelling at him but it’s not working this is becoming a pattern… helppp😭

Be completely transparent with me.

How long did it take you to potty train your toddler? Weeks? Months? I want to throw in the towel and go back to pull ups and it’s barely been a week. We had one great day. Only accident was poop and one pee accident on day 3 and then we went backwards. Ugh. 😣

He cheated & I don’t know how to feel

I’ve been married to my husband for almost 2 years so we’re pretty new to this whole thing and for 80% of the relationships we were living in 2 different countries and I would go and visit him (we met on holiday). We now have a 1 year old daughter who I have been solo parenting for all this time until recently when he got his visa and was able to come to the uk. I would love to say we’ve been living the dream but it is far from it. He stays upstairs in the bedroom playing games most of the day or sleeping and I stay in the kitchen cooking and cleaning and looking after our daughter. Don’t get me wrong I actually choose to stay in the kitchen it’s the biggest room and my daughter can play whilst I get everything done. I have found numerous messages over the weeks to girls which he has played off as culture and language differences. I let it slide. Last night I found the worst one. I am 23 my husband is 28 and his woman on the side is 36 with 5 kids. She knows i exist. I have bpd and I crashed hard but for the sake of our daughter I have decided to stay. I just feel so empty and in pain now though because every time I see him I will remember. How do I get out of this pit? What do I do?

Cheated on but stayed

Has anyone been cheated whilst creating and growing a family?

If yes, how did you manage after the betrayal.

I have been cheated on when I was pregnant with my first found out when I was already pregnant with my second.

No judgement as to where there are any signs beforehand, honestly looking deeper probably but also no ... He was leading two lives!

He is trying now to make amends, it's been a year since I found out our second son has been born.

Yet some days I still have resentment and now it's more of this was meant to be the best season of my life being a mother, and being present to my young boys but yet some days my mind wonders

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Looking for advice on how to approach this situation

Me and my sons dad aren’t together but we get on quite well.

He is very much “boys will be boys” have to raise them to be strong and not weak etc

He watches unsuitable tv programmes (zombies, gory, fighting, sex scenes etc) and has the tv on in the background most of the time. If I say it’s not suitable he doesn’t wanna hear it, says the kids have to learn to be strong. Easy to say but he’s not there to deal with any consequences of his influence

Our son is now 6 months and I don’t have a tv at home, so when he does see tv it’s likely at his dad’s or with family.

I don’t really want the only tv he sees to be inappropriate but I’m not sure how I can approach this and actually be heard. It will probably end up in me not going to his dad’s house.

Should I bother speaking up or just not put our son in that environment?