When did you know that your marriage was over?

My husband and l have been together for about 9 years married 2 years. And l feel nothing towards him anymore. I don't feel love,comfort,warmth, or even loneliness. I am like ah your home cool, oh you left for work okay. Like I just dont seem to care that he's here for the weekend or gone at work. We have two kids 4 and 6. And l don't want them growing up in different homes. But l also don't like living here anymore. I am a SAHM and have no income which scares me but l also am tired of him taking care of us. I want to go get a job but it never lasts when its just me at home with two kids. Like l dont know how you single moms do it? Anyway we had a insadent 2 weeks ago and l feel more disconnected then ever. He wants to try again and keep us together but I don't. I don't want this anymore. But the kids do. Idk when did you feel it was done?

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Ive been going through the same and im asking myself when is enough enough? But I think im done now, I was fully done 7 weeks ago and he wouldn't leave so I tried...again...to make it work.

You can claim benefits to keep you afloat when you end things, I think if you want a divorce you legally get the house (if its yours or morgaged) till your youngest is 18.

Ive come to terms staying for the kids isn't enough and actually isn't it better to see their mum happy than just muddling through? It takes so much energy being with someone you dont want to anymore. Wishing you a healthy new start xxx

I’m confused on why u want to end it tho… like u just lost feelings for him or what?

Did he do something for you to feel this way? Not enough context here.

When I woke up one day and thought why the fuck am I putting up with this I deserve better !! and the fact that I didn’t want sex with him, just his existence aggravated me.. so I did what I had to do was hard but I’m a lot happier now !

If you aren’t 100% in the relationship then what’s the point in staying you only get one chance at life

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Me and my sons dad aren’t together but we get on quite well.

He is very much “boys will be boys” have to raise them to be strong and not weak etc

He watches unsuitable tv programmes (zombies, gory, fighting, sex scenes etc) and has the tv on in the background most of the time. If I say it’s not suitable he doesn’t wanna hear it, says the kids have to learn to be strong. Easy to say but he’s not there to deal with any consequences of his influence

Our son is now 6 months and I don’t have a tv at home, so when he does see tv it’s likely at his dad’s or with family.

I don’t really want the only tv he sees to be inappropriate but I’m not sure how I can approach this and actually be heard. It will probably end up in me not going to his dad’s house.

Should I bother speaking up or just not put our son in that environment?

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Ive been here for 8 years. Have 3 beautiful children an amazing husband. We bought our house a few years ago. However, this place is not for me and I am struggling to believe that I will be here for the rest of my life. The dryness and altitude are killing me. I grew up in Florida and I just visited recently and I realized how much I missed that place. I remembered my old funny laid-back self. I came back full of life joking at everything. Gosh how did I become so dry here. Anyways idk if its just venting or what... but coloradans are definitely not my people. 8 years here made in total 5 friend 3 moved to another state, one is leaving next year and one stopped talking to me because God knows why. For now i have to stay here for my husbands job. But I am struggling y'all.

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I’m really struggling with my marriage. For a while now i’ve been so unhappy. I feel unappreciated and unloved. My husband barely does anything nice for me, he doesn’t show any affection or appreciation towards me. I’ve told him how I felt multiple times but nothing changes. He constantly is rude and has an attitude and it just makes me so angry. We’ve been together since we were 17, we are now 25 so I really want to make this work but it’s clear that he’s not gonna change and won’t put in the effort. I really don’t want my son to grow up with his parents separated but idk what to do at this point. I’m so unhappy and all he does is make me upset.

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