Just need to vent…

Honestly kids learn by example and loving each other properly is important. I grew up with my parents separated and he didnt put effort in that relationship. With my mom or his kids. One thing im thankful for is them separating. I now have an amazing stepdad that loves me as his own! They have been together for over 20 years now. Statistics say you do more damage to children trying to force it to work instead of being in a healthy loving relationship. Your kid deserves to grow up seeing you loved right and you also deserve to be loved right. So dont think of it as your taking something away from them or breaking the family. Walking away could mean finding them an amazing role model to grow up with who LOVES their mom! Yall got together young and are becoming yall own people. Thats ok and it dont always work.

I would consider marriage counseling. It doesn’t work for everyone. In order for it to work both people in the marriage have to want the same thing . Which is ideally to improve the relationship. I think making a note of the positives and negatives can really help you understand what it is you need from this . You have to ask your self “is this something I can handle for the rest of my life ? “ because staying in something that ultimately is hurting you won’t be good for you or your son . His father is his first male role model . But you are the first woman in his life , heart and mind . The example of your marriage will determine his future healthy or unhealthy relationships . You say you’re unhappy, and voiced this . That must feel really lonely already . Is being apart going to change that . I do feel like anything is possible. You two made a beautiful life , a beautiful union and promise . Stand firm in your voice , finding that is hard . Don’t shy away from your feelings .