I felt so bad (Vent)

Yesterday was ROUGH.
Barely an hour of sleep, the L.O up and at em from 4am - damn near 7pm with only a few minute naps in between.
Not sleeping great (maybe a few hours) for weeks leading up to this day and not being ready to not have a small nap in the afternoon like usual.
Sleeping in a recliner instead of my bed because L.O won't sleep in her bedside bassinet for more than 30mins (if I'm lucky) that is slowly hurting my body (Thanks fibromyalgia 👌🏻)
Fighting the heat that's only supposed to get worse according to the forecast.
Just wanting a small nap. Not even a long one. Just 30 minutes to sleep.
Being a little snappy to my man, who does everything for me and the L.O.
Wondering when it's supposed to "Get better" like everyone says.
And a bit more that will make this post way too long lol.

I felt awful.
For my baby being so hot and fussy because of it - then being too cold and fussy because of that.
For snapping at my dude.
For being so out of it, but still having to show up and be there for the L.O.
For feeling overwhelmed when having a baby and being able to breastfeed is such a beautiful gift.

It felt like a lot, and I just wish I could've handled some things better.

The baby is thriving, feeding, and happy though - so that somehow makes it feel a bit better even though I still feel awful and overwhelmed.

I guess this is a long-winded vent just to kind of say;
If you've ever felt this way, or have multiple days where you feel this way - you're not alone. I see you. I hear you, and I hope things are getting a bit better for you 🫶🏻

-p.s. thanks for letting me vent in advance without judgement. Sometimes it feels like it's illegal to say anything about motherhood besides "I'm so happy."

in our community

What time do you mamas go to bed after putting your baby down?

Everyday I tell myself that I'm going to get into bed early - it hasn't happened since I had my baby.

My baby is 6 months now and he goes down between 7.3 - 8.3. By the time I come out the room usually 9ish.

I don't know where the time is but I'm getting really tired! I don't get into bed till 12/1am and then he's up for a feed.

I feel like I'm doing the cleaning, doing his bottles, getting things prepped so it's not even time for myself unless I have a shower. My husband is a workaholic so I am doing majority of it. There's no help.
I have to ask him to do things then it takes too long anyhow and I get it done

Partner who sleeps through EVERYTHING

I'm planning a C-section. I'm not too worried about recovery as I've had 1 major and 6 minor surgeries before, I feel like I understand the severity of recovery, but my only real worry is looking after a baby while recovering. My partner is SUCH a heavy sleeper (and snorer!), and I am worried he won't wake up to help me the first few days when I'll need it most.
I was planning on putting a small single bed in the nursery so whichever one of us is on "shift" that night can get up with the baby but I know that's going to end up being me every night.
If I put the baby in our bedroom , I'm worried the snoring will wake it up, and my husband will still sleep through all the crying or me asking for help.
I'm a very light sleeper, I have slept with ear plugs in pretty much our entire relationship because of his snoring, sometimes I sleep in the spare room and I have to get up and wake him up because his alarm for work is going off and he's snoring/sleeping through it.

I've always wanted a c section for personal reasons but his sleeping/snoring is the only reason I'm considering a vaginal birth now. But if it ends up being an emergency c section I'll be EVEN more tired.

My mum is unable to stay with us as she's disabled, and his mum can only come and stay with us for about a week because she's his dad's carer and doesn't want to leave him too long (they live abroad). I would rather she comes and stays once my partner goes back to work so I'm not alone straight away.

I've spoken to him about this and he insists he will get up when the baby cries but he doesn't even wake up when the house or fire alarms have gone off so I don't believe this.

I don't really know what I'm looking for as advice, but maybe just if someone has been in a similar situation with a heavy sleeping partner, how did they cope? Or was it a nightmare?

Would rats take nappies out of a bin?

I'm so perplexed. I noticed today that round the side of my house there is a pile of nappies. There my child's nappies as I have 2 kids in nappies, and it was both their sizes and the brand I use. However I ALWAYS bag each nappy individually in a scented bag before I bin it. Our bins are in a communal area with everyone else's bins in the block.

I'm confused why someone would take the nappies out the bin and dump them at my house. I'm putting them in my own bin, and I'm doing everything I can to make sure they don't smell. But the bin area smells generally, that can't really be helped.

My kids dad thinks maybe its been rodents but I don't understand how they've taken so many nappies out the bins, out the bags, and then put them at my wall? When there's so many other houses in the block and so many other areas/crevices that would probably be more appealing for a rodent?

I don't really understand and I'm worried I've somehow upset someone but I always use my own bin and keep to myself.

Sleep training

my daughter and I have co slept all have little life lol. She 16 months now I’d love to try n get her to sleep in her crib for at least half the night. I typically nurse her before bed and then she gts. but when I try to lay her down in the crib she immediately wakes up and cries. ( I lay her down after she falls asleep) Her crib is in a room with a bed that I’m able to sleep in just so that while she getting used to it I’m not far away and will help since she still nurses at night.
Idk what to do. The cry it out method doesn’t work for me because she will literally make herself sick crying for me and it seems to cause more stress than anything else for her.

Could it also be that I’m too short to actually get her in the crib I do have be on my tip toes and to lean over a significant amount??

Experience with taking antidepressants

Hi all, I’m having my 4th baby and I have been taking antidepressants since May 2025. I wondered if there are any mothers here who took antidepressants in previous pregnancies. I also take amitriptyline for migraines. I’m just worried about the after effects it will have once baby is born. My last pregnancy, I was on sertraline for my anxiety and when my son was born, he had tremors. How were your births and postnatal?

crawling

my 9 month old is almost getting the hang of crawling but not quite there yet. any moms have any tips to help baby safely learn coordination and balance when crawling?