My partner is annoyed that we aren't having sex

So I'm 2 months pp and stitches are barely healed. We have 2 under 2, I'm breastfeeding both and we co sleep with both. We went for a family day out the other day and the next day he's just an asshole. He's being horrible to both me and our daughter and later tells me he's in a bad mood because I didn't surprise him with sexual favours to say thank you for the day out. He said if I can't have sex I should've done something else for him. There isn't one second of the day I'm not with the babies. I do not leave them to sleep in the room together if I'm not there and tbh they wouldn't sleep anyway. We actually only have one bedroom too. He won't allow anyone else in the family to care for the babies so I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. Few days later and I'm still perplexed. What's the solution? Also we were having sex right up until I gave birth so I feel like it hasn't even been that long. And after all of this he's now said he's going to treat me like his sister and he's refusing to communicate with me and just being an asshole.

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Why do men think that behaving like a petulant child is going to make you want to have sex with them? He realises you’ve just expelled an entire human from inside your body a couple of months ago? Would love to see how horny he would be if his arse hole stretched to 10cm and he fired a head out of it.
You also shouldn’t have to reward him for doing something nice for his family, that should just be what he does because he wants to.
Tell him to have a wank in the shower and get over himself.

So you are working round the clock to be there for both of your children and he's being extremely disrespectful and neglecting your wellbeing completely. He doesn't seem to have the emotional maturity to understand that his role now is to support you and take the pressure off of you by looking after the older child, helping with cooking and cleaning so you can feed the baby and rest! Every man will feel slightly neglected after the baby's birth but he has no right to talk to you like that!
Stay strong, take charge and be assertive - you are the priority and he should realize he needs to treat you much better than that unless his wish is to find himself single.

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My partner is annoyed that we aren't having sex

So I'm 2 months pp and stitches are barely healed. We have 2 under 2, I'm breastfeeding both and we co sleep with both. We went for a family day out the other day and the next day he's just an asshole. He's being horrible to both me and our daughter and later tells me he's in a bad mood because I didn't surprise him with sexual favours to say thank you for the day out. He said if I can't have sex I should've done something else for him. There isn't one second of the day I'm not with the babies. I do not leave them to sleep in the room together if I'm not there and tbh they wouldn't sleep anyway. We actually only have one bedroom too. He won't allow anyone else in the family to care for the babies so I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. Few days later and I'm still perplexed. What's the solution? Also we were having sex right up until I gave birth so I feel like it hasn't even been that long. And after all of this he's now said he's going to treat me like his sister and he's refusing to communicate with me and just being an asshole.

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