I think I messed my life up🥺.

Please don’t judge guys… I’ve been with this person for 3 years now. When we first met he lied about everything . How many kids he have ( he told me 2 but has 7 ) also his living situation. He told me he lost his place when he did 5 years in jail and is renting a room at his aunts which he took me over there MULTIPLE times.. i eventually found out it’s his babymothers house… it’s just so much I can go on and on but I don’t want to wrap you guys up about it. Now im currently 24 weeks pregnant by him. When I first found out I told him right away I did not want to keep it I wanted an abortion it’s dumb to me to have a child with a man that still stays with his babymother.. he promised me we would move we went apartment hunting and everything but here we are now still have not moved… im getting nervous I feel like time is moving fast . Also the babymom found out I was pregnant like a month ago . I don’t know if he lied his way out if that or told her the truth at this point especially because he lied so much about the kids in the beginning and before she “found out” he was over my house literally every night now he barely comes. Im really sad I feel like I should have went with my instinct and not kept the baby. I don’t have space to bring him home with me. I was literally in my party era of life since my 3 year old is potty trained and talking so I was comfortable sending him to family members while I went out now im stuck all over again because I THOUGHT I was settling down to build a family not be a second life to him….

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I just wanna give you a hug I’m so sorry I’m not gonna sit here and say I understand but I’ve been in the position of battling thoughts of abortion and etc feel free to message me if you want to talk more at this point all you can do is focus on making the life for this baby as best as possible once they’re born you’ll be over the moon which you have a baby already so you already know but men fucking suck and most of them are all the same I’m so sorry you have to endure this while pregnant I’m praying for you and your situation

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