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I think social media has skew the perspective of the no visitor policy. I felt the same way until me and my husband had no help from our family for a whole month. It was really hard ngl especially when it’s your first baby. You never been through childbirth and it’s a complete shock to your body even in a healthy delivery. You will need help and your partner will need help to keep up with the demands of a healing wife and a brand new human being. But you should also designate task for the visitors coming and let them know their task they are very much expected to do prior to coming. For example mother in law is expected to cook in the evenings, your mother is expected to make lunch for everyone. Sisters are expected to help out on night shift, when the baby isn’t sleeping and your and husband need sleep. You word it nicely and throw in everyone will have time with the baby. But these are our expectation to help us have a smooth postpartum, and not feel weighed down to host our family.

They have to understand that they’re not carrying the baby. They’re not developing the baby in their belly. And they’re not birthing the baby. They need to respect your peace and respect what you want before, and after birth. your partner shouldn’t have to pay for anyone’s expenses because they are not his priority. You and your baby are now his family and you two are the most important thing. Just like it was for his parents when they had him and so on. As long as you have a partner, that is understanding and helpful postpartum shouldn’t really be too hard but it is different for everyone, so if you get down or feel down don’t be scared to try and reach out to people who understand you. sometimes men are not gonna exactly understand because they’re not a woman and they don’t go through what women go through after birth. Postpartum messes with your hormones and your body is trying to recover from carrying a baby for nine months. If you don’t want visitors, you don’t have to have them.

and please be patient and easy on urself mamas ur a first mom and it may feel scary but you were made for this and you can do this and it’s OK to feel like you don’t have it all the time we all go through that but you can always reach out to me. If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to because I’m a first time mom and I understand you.